My husband has left me and my daughter and I am on the healing path and I kinda like this guy (though I only want to be friends now) and I've only been with my husband and haven't ever dated anyone else. When I talk to him I get really nervous even though I don't want a "love" relationship right now but I want to be friends with him as we have alot in common and I think we could have fun together and if it develops into something else later then that will something else but I just don't know how to flirt I guess. I do find him physically attractive and I think that's whats getting in my way. Maybe my problem is just breaking the ice. HELP! What do I do?
2007-08-13 07:07:34 · 12 answers · asked by Lucky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We both like to ride horses and have horses of our own and we both have spouses that have left us with small children too. I'll just take it slow and see what happens. Thanks so much guys! I just need a lesson or two about getting out in the world again! Keep the answers comin!
2007-08-13 07:17:54 · update #1
You sound like you are smart. You just keep doing what your doing, and it will fall into place.Take it slow, and keep open communication with him. Dont be ashamed of taking things slow. good luck girl :)
2007-08-13 07:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is easy. :) Make eye contact, smile and laugh at the right time, and sometimes make physical contact... like touching his arm or hand at certain times. I know this has to be hard for you, but if you just let yourself relax and have a good time, it will just come naturally to you. If you need to break the ice... just ask him about something he is into, or a general question that you yourself can answer after he has give you his opinion. Just remember that you are a wonderful person and that any man is lucky to have your attention!!! <3
2007-08-13 07:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by smileprincess81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, bless your heart even your avatar looks worried. I don't think there's much ice to break. It sounds like you two already have a decent rapport with each other and enjoy each other's company. You're definitely nervous and that's normal just coming out of a marriage, but there's no need to think you can't flirt well, because it seems as though you're doing just fine. Enjoy yourself in your own time and space.
2007-08-13 07:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go out to dinner with you and your daughter, ask him to hang out with you and your daughter by going to a function of some kind. Your daughter could be the ice breaker if he likes kids, if not just ask him out to coffee or go bowling, or something not very "date" oriented. Like I tell my friends, the worst he could say is NO. If you guys have a lot in common, obviously you have talked. Chances are, if he's single he'd love to hang out with you just to get to know you better as a friend. Good luck!
2007-08-13 07:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Momma Gaga 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself with him. If something will happen it will on it's own. Don't worry so much about how to flirt ot anything just show him who you are. That way if he's interested he will show it to you. You have all the right in the world to find someone that makes you happy. So don't be afraid. Trust yourself and go for it!
2007-08-13 07:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by miaujin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be your self and if think you are not ready for a deep relationship, communicate it to him. Simply tell him, you are attracted to him, a little nervous, just got out of a marriage, and would wish to start out as good friends. Just be honest with him, and I suggest you take it slow anyway~since you are fresh out of a marriage, plus you have your daughter to think of.
2007-08-13 07:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. Let him know that you think he is a great friend and you would love to hang out. If you take it slowly then you will feel more comfortable. Plus by telling him what you think of him it may help him to feel more comfortable around you as well.
2007-08-13 07:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. I know people say it all the time, but it's true. You can only be yourself, do what your heart tells you and go slow. Things will happen if and when they are suppose to happen.
Good luck!
2007-08-13 07:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by blue eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to focus so much on your attractions to him. Just talk to him as if he was one of your friends with nothing else attached and it will come more naturally. Good luck!
2007-08-13 07:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and relax. If it is meant to be it will be!
2007-08-13 07:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋