i feel in love with a true hustler who was all about making his money and taking care of me BUT sellling drugs always come back to bite you in the ***. he got charge with the drug cases then his file from some years ago came up with attempted murders and everything . i am really in love with this boy but he is severing no less then 3 years and i thinking i can wait that long but should i wait that long ............ could the way he talk to me while he is in jail be that jailhouse talk my mama worned me about?PLEASE HELP ME
2007-08-13 06:29:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
if he's been nice to you and you are in love with you then yeah, you should. but what he wont know wont hurt him. so if you do happen to do anything with anyone else and meet somebody who is more respectful then I'd say GO FOR IT. He's in jail. He deserved it too. You deserve to be happy. You should ask him if he wants you to wait.
2007-08-13 06:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your talking about a man that attempted to murder another human being. Look at the losgistics of it. You will spend the best years of your life waiting for a man who may or may not be the right one for you. When he is released he will have trouble finding gainfull employment and he will raise rates on your home owners insurance, or make it very hard for you to find a decent rental. He will be on parole that could be violated at anytime and it will leave you supporting him and yourself . He will need money added to his accounts and visits that can cost $1000 a pop when he gets trasferred to another prison across the state. His parole will bring new financial issues as there are hundreads of dollars a month you have to pay for the priveledge of freedom.
Or you can let go and let life take its natural course. I'm betting you find a one in a million man within a year.
There is more than one person for each of us. Its our own life choices that will choose who get, and who gets us. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt that he's not your sould mate and see what else is out there.
2007-08-13 13:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You want to find a partner that will elevate you and make you a better person, one that will complement and compliment you. Hustlers and ex-cons don't tend to be those people.
I recommend you do things that will help you realize you're better than this. I find that doing something nice for somebody else - like volunteering, making a nice meal for a homeless person and bringing it to me on teh street, etc - helps you realize your own value. You're a smart, beautiful woman, deserving of a good man. He's not it. Your infatuation will pass with time.
2007-08-13 13:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Heather B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, what's the matter with you, girl? Do you really want to be stereotyped as the "dumb ho" that sticks by a menace to society? C'mon, you can do better than that. Do right by yourself and burn the bridge...you can get a college degree in the time he'll be in jail and take care of yourself! Black women pride themselves on being strong and independent and showing the whole world....so DO IT and close that chapter in your life. DO something better for yourself and your community, and share your story with others when you get turned around; it will no doubtedly motivate others who will be in the same situation you are in right now.
2007-08-13 13:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your ethics match his? If you have as low an ethical stance as he does, then you can't do any better.
Stay with him.
If you are worth more, if your ethics are higher, then you can do better. Move on.
Don't sell yourself cheaply unless that's all you're worth.
Ethics can't be taught by the time you're an adult, not without an immense amount of pain. You have to decide if you want to be with him through all that pain while he learns how life doesn't really tolerate the unethical.
2007-08-13 13:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by mckenziecalhoun 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a drug dealer who has been charged with attempted murders. He is not someone you need to be with, in my opinion. Find someone honest, clean and sober. Please, for your own good, realize that you deserve someone reliable who will be good to you and will follow the law.
Don't wait. Get your head on straight and find a good man.
2007-08-13 13:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hustlers are nice for a while, but I guess this is the hard part. I would dump him and find another guy if you can't handle three years.
2007-08-13 13:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Hillary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait for him....you might as well be locked up with him :) Get on with your life and start making improvments. Hopefully the next dude you fall in love with won't be a thug.
2007-08-13 13:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ma'am, please have some self respect.
If he really did what the law says he did, he isn't worth waiting for.
Be respectable and start fresh with a man who makes an honest and morally correct living.
Please, we don't want this man to have a chance to pollute the gene pool any more than it already is.
2007-08-13 13:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste my time. Don't let this douchebag ruin your future. How much will you love him, when you end up in jail, a hospital or dead, because of his drug dealing.
2007-08-13 13:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋