dont you think sometimes it would be easier that way? i have kids, i dont have a lot of money, but i have a good job
2007-08-13 05:54:34 · 22 answers · asked by Brian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whats wrong with being alone I mean If you are happy... There is NO rule about having to be with anyone by a certain age... I plan on being alone for a while I like being alone
2007-08-13 05:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of divorced people feel that way.. they are so scared of making a real commitment that they never let themselves get close to another person for fear of the same result happening.. and then u add the kids to the situation and u start realizing that if u bring someone into ur life, that opens up a whole new can of worms for u , your significant other and definately ur kids.. its called "dont rock the boat " syndrom..
But like i tell alot of people.. the moment u stop looking for love is the moment love comes knocking at ur door, and when its the right one, u can try to distance urself all u want, but it wont work.. when the hurt subsides, when u start feeling confident again and get ur life back to where u want it to be, u will move on.. sometimes it just takes time.. i was divorced for 9 years, was proposed to 6 times in my life..because of my fear of going through another divorce i always dodged the question, even had one bf nic name me the run away bride cause the moment marriage was brought up i was quick to find all things wrong in the relationship.. but im now married to a great guy, that had plenty of patience for all my insecurities.. so when ur ready , u will be willing to love again, and let someone love u again.. so just focus on u and ur kids, and let what happens happen..
2007-08-13 13:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have kids, you'll never have to be alone. Not what you're asking, I'm sure, but, think about it, kids can be a great way to meet other people like you.
Go to the park, take them anywhere where other parents take their kids. Go to their school functions. Not only might you meet some other people you can relate to, but your kids are getting to spend time with you. Improving those relationships will make your life so much more rewarding!
2007-08-13 15:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just in an emotional funk. Meeting suitable romantic partners in this day and age is hard. People aren't always as forthright about themselves, or continue to be as "adorable" as the day we met them these days. In my personal experience, the inner psycho can't seem to wait to make an appearance before I've even figured out if I like someone or not.
You're only 33. Your circumstances (children, moderate income) shouldn't be hindrances to your finding love again. Just give yourself the time to rediscover what kind of love and coupling situation you want in the future. Based on past experiences, your beliefs and needs may have changed. Give yourself time to heal from any emotional traumas and/or wounds, and relearn what's important to you in relationships and a potential partner. And then get right back out there. Good luck.
2007-08-13 13:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young....and remember it is always better to be happy, healthy and alone, than to be with some one in a bad relationship. Don't let your age make you feel pressured to hurry up and find some one. If the time is right and the person is right, it will happen. In the mean time just concentrate on being a good father.
2007-08-13 12:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be alone, if that's what you choose to be.
I was 33 when I met my husband and I thank God, because that's when I was ready to settle and meet the man of my dreams and at that time, I knew exactly what would make me happy. Well I got it. He was worth the wait.
Relax. Your woman will be arriving and when she does and you both fall in love, nothing will be difficult. Good Luck
2007-08-13 13:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude there are worse of people than you. (don't take that personally) Look here's an example. My Dad was going to get married to this woman. They lived with each other for 2 1/2 years she has a kid and I'm his daughter and they were planning on getting married and having another kid together. Then My Dad and her broke up(it's a long story and I'm not going to tell it) But he doesn't give up. I mean he's not throwing himself out there. But you can't give up on love. AND my Dad is 43. your ten years younger so suck it up and put yourself out there. Don't let one person ruin all you hopes and dreams of your future.
2007-08-13 13:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by lil mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not sad, it's totally normal. I have a daughter and I'm and thinking the exact same thing. I wish you the best of luck and here's hoping that you will meet a women that will change your mind! Good Luck to you!!
2007-08-13 12:58:52 · answer #8 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
33 is still young, why would you think you will be alone for the rest of your life?
2007-08-13 12:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brian guess what you are not alone. I am 33yrs divorce with a daughter. You have to make time for yourself go out with your friends, who knows you might meet someone. There is nothing wrong with being alone.
2007-08-13 13:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by karen j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋