Imet this guy a week ago while camping(im20, hes21)and as soon as we met there was an instant connection.We were inseperable all weekend and would just sit there and have conversations that lasted hours. When i was leaving he was really upset and kept asking when he'd see me next.That night he called me (we live in different provinces)and we talked for 3 hours.He has called me every day since we met and we just talk for hours on end (this is long distance). I decided to follow my gut instinct so I booked a flight out there in 3 weeks, when I told him he was ecstatic and has started planning 'surprises' for me. We have started talking about whats going to happen in the future about the long distance problem and have decided down the road one of us will move. I know this is going really fast, but it doesnt feel that way. It just feels right. In your opinion do you think he feels the same way I do about him?? Do you think he truly likes me??Do you think we can overcome the long distance?
2007-08-13 05:44:11 · 7 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's no age problem- that's good. Now, there is a different problem- the time you two have known each other. It is too short. TOO short. I also had the same problem as you have. The difference is, I knew the guy longer. I also faced the same "long distance problem"! In the end, I realised that you need to know your partner more. Distance is going to be a problem. It will. As for whether he trully likes you, well, I think you are too happy that you've met this guy that you don't realise that there might be other guys better than him right now! How do you know if he is faking all the happyness?Do you know this guy well enough to already judge him? I understand that you feel happy to have met this guy. That's how I felt but you need to take it slow. Get to know each other. You're both still young. There's plenty of time. Relax.
2007-08-13 05:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds so exciting and wonderful. I hope that you enjoy that feeling and the newness of it all. But at your age you need to realize that just about anything can happen and planning too far ahead will only bring disappointment.
His family or yours may not gel. He may be someone else when not on vacation. If I am right about men, it is best to let them do the more aggressive moves. It makes them feel manly and that means happy.
Relationship are all about how you make each other feel. Make sure that you pay attention to your guts, if there are little things that ring bells, stop and reassess what you are doing. The best advice I can give to women before you settle down with someone, is see how he is with his mom, because that is how he will end up treating you when the honeymoon is over, when the wooing stage is done.
I met a nice guy on a vacation in Mexico and began a cross country relationship with him. I was in my mid 20's and thought it would not be too bad an idea to think about settling down. His family was great and everything went well, but when I look at my life now, the absolute wonder of it, I am so glad that I did not settle for just good.
You have so much of your life ahead; see more of the world, meet more people. I see no problem with going to see him and the place he lives, but keep it as light and fun as possible. Enjoy it to the fullest and do not expect too much.
2007-08-13 06:15:43 · answer #2 · answered by lovesong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to everything basically, but take the time to think things through. It sounds like love to me, and you are old enough to make your own decisions. Just make sure to have a fall back plan if things don't work out, and don't burn any bridges before you take this leap. True love comes along very seldom in life, and this does have that magical quality about it. Good Luck little sister, just be carefull OK?
2007-08-13 22:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Irregardless of the connection you feel, you must work hard at not rushing into things to quickly with this man. You just met him and even though you have talked for hours on end, you are still just getting to know him. Stop planning for the future, you just MET! Keep things between you and him in the present tense. If its meant to be, it will happen.
2007-08-13 06:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything depends on whether he's gainfully employed or not.
If he's not all the way to adult and taking care of himself, this is going nowhere. If he is, then you can hope a little, but don't cut off all your other options until he has proposed and you're ready to accept.
2007-08-13 06:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOING TO FAST TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH... YOU KNOW THIS GUY B/C YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN TALKING TO EACH OTHER EVERYDAY BUT REMEMBER IS JUST TALKING ON THE PHONE YOU....YOU DONT REALLY KNOW THE PPL HE SI HANGING AROUND W/ OR WHAT HE DOES WHENEVER YOU GUYS ARE NOT TALKING HE COULD TELL SOMETHING WAY DIFFERENT AT WHAT HE'S REALLY DOING.....SO BE CAREFUL AND GOOD LUCK
2007-08-13 07:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by NANA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh lord..... Just be prepared to come back in here in a few months and make a post about how this all failed and what should you do now????????
2007-08-13 06:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by wer30snfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋