What do you do when your SO has future plans on his/her own?

Question

You are in love
You dream one day to share a life with your SO
Your being doing the best you can to make things work out with your SO
But then you find out on your own that he/she has other plans that doesn't include you and he/she hasnt talk to you about it.

Now you feel helpless, sad, you feel like you been working for nothing, he/she is leaving (he/she doesn't know that u know all this) you feel like you are lost without him/her...what do you do next??? How to stop feeling this way?? Why does it feel that when he/she will be gone everything will be worthless???
Help!...thanx


WHY DOESNT HE OR SHE TELL YOU ALL THIS...Their plans, why if you are still together, why??

Answer 1

Because the relationship failed. Sorry the names brutal honesty for a reason, not because I tell disney tales about why your not working hard enough. Its the very nature of a relationship that you RELATE everything. Don't worry you both failed not just you. Your problem now is that you made he/she your purpose in life, while he/she made these plans there purpose. Been there! Ether way this is why romance love isn't love, it blinds us the idea of living for another person it isn't suppose to be that way. You both SHARE the same purpose and thats why your together. Don't beat yourself to much this is WHY society has a 75% divorce rate. Becasue society fundemental sets us up to want two very different futures. Ether way you'll have to ether let go of the hope for him, or confront him on this like the relationship was met. Theres alot more to this but thats why there was councilors frist then yahoo answers....