I told her that my wife had an affair and left me for him and now...?

Question

she doesn't talk to me anymore! I met a wonderful lady after my divorce and she asked me why I got a divorce. I told her that my wife developed a relationship with a coworker and left me for him after a 10 year marriage. She told me thats aweful and now she won't return my calls. Do women look down on a man whos wife abandoned him Not even giving him a chance to save his marriage?

Answer 1

What your wife did shouldn't have an effect on how this woman treated you. Perhaps she thinks you're "damaged goods". Personally, most women I know would appreciate a man who has the guts to be as honest as you were.
I don't know any woman who would dump a guy because he was abandoned.
Take your time and don't rush into anything. Above all, remember that not all women are like your ex. Some of us are kind and caring and wouldn't dream of leaving our husbands. Good luck.

Answer 2

No, I wouldn't think so.
It's important to know the cause of a break up, because, provided the person is honest, it kind of gives you an idea who you're dealing with.
Still, if you didn't go into details on why she actually chose someone else, I can hardly see why she'd bear it against you.
Besides, some women just do it because they have a midlife crisis and think wrongly that the grass is greener elsewhere.
Maybe she has a similar story where she's the one who cheated and doesn't want you to judge her!
So, if you have been trying to call her and she ignores your call, you have to leave it, and let her make her own decision.
If she really likes you, you'll hear from her again.
Good luck.xxx

Answer 3

How long did you see her before telling this woman this information? If it was too soon some women consider men to be broke. Like your ex hurt you so bad you may not trust again or treat a lady nice anymore. And I noticed you said after your divorce, she may be worried about being your rebound. You just never know for sure, but consider yourself a great catch and just go out and have fun. If you want don't go into detail on your divorce. Just say things didn't work out.

Answer 4

I think this woman is weird..... I'd have felt a lot of sympathy for you after knowing this (NOT pity, mind you), not the other way round..... I think she probably found something that she didn't like about you after a few dates (not meaning to be rude, just trying to understand her actions) and she decided to stop dating you at the same time you told her about your previous relationship.... I really don't think she could have any reason to stop seeing you only because someone else cheated on you. If you had been the cheater, then she would have had all the reasons to run away, but if this isn't the case then just forget about her and move on, I'm sure you'll find someone better!!

Answer 5

I don't think so, maybe she thought you had too much emotional baggage, especially if this divorce took place recently. Also, women worry that when the wife leaves the husband, she might come back for him down the road and he might want to take her back because she left him in the first place. Who knows what this womans prob is just stop calling her and move on if she wants to call you she will, if not, no big loss right!!

Answer 6

How deep into this relationship with this woman were you? If it was fairly new, this may have "scared" her. She might be thinking that you're carrying emotional baggage that she's not prepared to deal with. How emotional were you when you told her this news? If you were overly emotional, crying, or bitter, this too, may have made her hightail it.
If you two were comfortable together, perhaps she was offended that you didn't tell her sooner?
Either way, cut your losses, heal your heart, find some hobbies and get back on the dating scene afterwards. Best of luck, and I'm sorry about your divorce.

Answer 7

Not at all!!! If so, then she is shallow and not worth your time. When you told her, you may have come off as you still had feelings for your ex wife though, and this could be cause for her not returning your calls. That would be about the only thing that she would do this over. It is not a bad thing that your wife left you for someone else....well, it doesnt look bad on you....it was bad that she did it, and it was bad that you had to deal with it. But it has no negative reflection on you what-so-ever!

Answer 8

You should be happy this happened now. She sounds like one to stay away from. My partner was in the same situation as you. Married for 10 years and his wife left him for her boss. He went through a pretty bad time for a couple of years and every woman he met was just wrong for him. You know the type pretentious, money hungry and just looking to take advantage of his kind nature. He finally met me and he is really happy now. Give it time and you will meet the right one and it will be better than your marriage ever was.

Answer 9

I don't think this is generally true. However, women (like men) are individuals. Who knows why the circumstances of your divorce freaked her out? Maybe she's been involved in something similar before. Maybe she wasn't that into you. People can be very weird about ending new dating relationships. It can be awkward and so people sometimes avoid the other party instead. I wouldn't read TOO much into this person's behavior. Good luck.

Answer 10

I dont think so...Of course there are some out there that create stereotypes and ruin it for the majority of women out there.....In my opinion it wouldnt bother me in the least if the wife left the man! Dont compare either one of these women as what all women are like you have been delt a couple bad hands in the game of life forget both women and jump back into the game there are decent women out there you just gotta look for them!