im 18 and trying to move out.,,what do you think?

Question

Im 18 and trying to move out..im going to start college soon and im going to start having to pay for it my self.im 18 and i cant even go to walmart without asking my parents.they took my cell phone and i remember wen i said i was moving out i got a slap to my face..im tired of this..when i go out i have to be home at 8pm/9pm.i have a job but its not all that great its just for now to work with my school shedule. my mom wants me to end this relantionship i have with my boyfriend.she asked me when was i going to leave him and i said never and she said that she was going to make it happen.every choice i made by myself my parents bih at me saying im suppose to ask them when i go out etc. im so stressed out and dont know what to do except move out..do any of yall know where they can help me pay for college?and do yall think the right choice is to move out? if so how much will i need to start ?

going to a communtiy college(no dorm rooms) then a 4 year ... and they just recently took my car keys

Answer 1

You're 18, you're a legal adult. There's no reason you should have to put up with this sort of disgusting abuse. You're in luck, because going to college gives you access to help you'd never have otherwise.

Run, don't walk, to the college's financial aid office. Ask them for help in getting grants and/or loans enough so that you could live on campus. Go to the housing office and get yourself assigned to an apartment. Don't be afraid to ask for help, they are there for you and if you are nice about it they'll do everything in their power to get you what you need.

Don't be afraid of student loans, they are actually not bad and you don't have to pay them back until after you graduate. I had them, and I was never sorry.

Get out as fast as you can! You are grown-up now and you deserve to be free and happy.

I am wishing you courage and luck and joy.

Answer 2

With age comes responsibility. If you don't like the treatment you receive at home take action and start your own life on your own. It will be hard, but it's possible. Many people do it. You need to look online for school grants to help with college. Then search apartments or houses for rent in the area of your school. If you have to get 2 or 3 jobs then that's what you have to do. I had 3 jobs, my own house, and paying for college at the same time. If you have the will then there is a way. Good luck and don't let your boyfriend talk you out of going to college.

Answer 3

first find out how u r going to support ur self. there are colleges that let u go to school there and work there to help pay for things. once u have the fiances figured out then i would move. they are trying to controll u. they are afraid to lose u. and it might not ever stop. I'm 37. i left home when i was 18. went into millwrights, union hall careers. now i move everywere and get payed 23-28 dollars an hour. my mom even now trys to tell me what to do, how to pay my bills. she treats me like a child. and i do not visit home very often at all. i recent married. my mom thinks my wife is stupid and the devil. my mom thinks she is right and everyone is wrong. she would bit-h if she went to heaven she would complain about the altitude. some people u just have to ignore if you can't repair the damage. u just cant change them.heck my mom was adopted and she treats her dad and mom like kids and they are in very bad health. try explaining how u feel to them with out making it sound like u r attacking them. if anything set up a time with them and ur head church person so he/she can act as a mediator. or just get out and move far away. staying away and not calling my mom for about 1month makes her keep most ot her cool. good luck and i understand where u r coming from.

Answer 4

I wouldn't rush to get out right now even though your home life sounds like a wreck but get a decent job and put at least 10 % of your earnings in savings. You will want to have at least three months rent ready when you go in to rent a place plus money for utilities. My utilities average monthly about $125 for electric, $45 for internet, $25 for water, and $65 for trash every three months. Plus, I have my car insurance which is $98 a month and my car payment which is $255 and then you have to figure in about $20 a week for gas and $30 every three months for an oil change and then tire rotation every 4-6 months, tune-up every winter and any repairs on your car. Plus, you want to have money saved for emergencies. Then you have to pay for your school and books too. It's going to be expensive but the best thing is to ease into it gradually. Don't rush even though you are having problems with your parents. Sit down with your mom and tell you that you realize you are living under their roof and you would like to revise some of the rule such as the cerfew (if your parents go to bed at a certain time it's not fair for you to come in late and wake them up). Extend it to about 10 on weekdays and 11 on weekends. Tell them you don't want to break up with your boyfriend but you understand they do not approve of him so you will not bring him to the house. Sort of meet your parents half way so to speak. Then in a year if you are making enough money to move out you can. Here is a link to an online back that you can start an account with. It pays 5% interest instead of less than 1% like most banks. The reason it pays more is because banks such as this one loan money to other banks and make more in interest plus they take less profit to gain more customers.

Answer 5

that's a really hard situation. at 18 you're old enough to make decisions like whether you're going out and you certainly should be able to stay out until after 9pm! of course i did have friends in high school with parents who thought "if you live under my roof, you live under my rules" and i'm guessing that's how your parents are...?
while moving out might seem like the solution keep in mind that it's very difficult to do on your own without the support of some adult, if not your parents, because financially you cannot support yourself. do you maybe have any aunts, uncles, cousins, etc that could help support you? the thing is, you can apply for federal grants and loans for school but if you parents make much money you won't be able to get much from the goverment even if your parents arent giving you any money, pretty messed up huh? and you could get a student loan from a bank but being only 18 and with no credit you wont be able to do that without a co-signer. this person would have to be an adult with good credit and they're co-signing means that if you don't pay off the loan they are responsible for doing so. sooo as you imagine people arent exactly jumping at opportunities to co-sign on loans for tens of thousands of dollars.
my advice would be, as much as it sucks, to try to stick it out at your parents house for a least another year or 2. try to work as much as you can, mabye try to get a job that pays better...that way you'll be on your way to being self sufficient in a couple years. good luck! i really hope everything works out for you!

Answer 6

Children don't learn decision-making by having decisions made for them. So, you need to understand that you've been severely short-changed or eve abused by your parents. They haven't helped you to learn to make decisions. It's not something that is learned overnight--it takes time and, when you learn on your own, you can expect to have a tough, tough time because mistakes are easily made. Do you have an adult, friend, relative, minister, priest, or counselor that you trust? Talk with them.
How much money do you need? How much money do you spend or will you need to spend? Think about a budget, so much for rent, so much for food, so much for clothes (you can buy those things used), how much for the baby (if you and your bf have an oops and make one), and that will tell you how much money you need.
This bf, is he a good guy? Does he do what he says he will do? Does he have a job? Does he do things for you and do you do things for him? Does he protect you? (I'm not talking about making you feel good or talk, I'm talking about honest to God help paying for dates and expenses.) Do NOT get involved or stay involved if you answer no to any of the above questions (that's part of being wise in decision making).

Answer 7

First off there are always student loans...and second off why dont you live on campus first and get a taste of living on your own? Parents can be harsh...but by 18 if you have shown them they can trust you they should be more lenient than yours are.....I know my dad was really good with me when I turned 18, but it was because I proved and continued to prove my trustworthiness. Some parents hold on too tight and I think living at college would help them to let go of you.

Answer 8

good luck.. sounds like your parents arent ready to let you fly the coop.. and with all the rules you have.. you'll need luck.. mattering where you live.. it could be hard.. for financial aid for college you need their tax info.. mattering if you stay on campus or off. you could be stretched thin..

What about the boyfriend.. does he live on his own.. is it serious enough to move in .. are you ready for that..

Then it goes back to how did you get all this dumped on you.. did you lose your parents trust somehow.. given its been 7 years since i moved out on my own at 18.. but then i never had the rules and restrictions you seem to have occured..

Answer 9

if you can support yourself, such as house, car and living, you can move out. if you cannot, don't complain.

Answer 10

move out and quit you're bitching