My friend hurt her knee, and her husband needed to take her to the doctor for an MRI. I had called and asked if I could do anything for her that day because I had the car while my husband was at work. She asked if I could come over and watch her girls while they went to the doctor. I said yes. I got over there with my son, and they took off for the doctor. I then noticed that both her girls had sneezy, runny, and stuffy noses. Ugh...I was a little upset that she didn't tell me her girls were sick. They came back and I left. A couple of days later, my son is now sick with the runny nose, sneezing, and suffiness. My friend has done this before. I've gone over there and her girls had the sniffles, and she said they weren't sick. Her definition and my definition is different apparently. Now that my son is sick, I'm a little aggrevated because this could have been prevented. If she had told me her girls were sick, I would have never agreed to come over there. Would you say something?How?
2007-08-13 05:01:18 · 38 answers · asked by lady_bella 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just tell her "Hun, its important to me if you tell me if your daughters have a runny nose etc. Even if you don't think they're sick, please tell me if something is wrong with them, so i can know wether to bring my son or not. You know i'd do the same for you!"
I truely agree. She should tell you.
At first, i thought maybe it was because her knee was hurting her, so she completely forgot to tell you, but since i read that she's done it before, that's not on.
Just tell her you'd like to know.
She's probably afraid you won't come over, but still she should tell you. Part of being a good parent and a good friend.
Take care, and hope your son gets better soon!
It's no fun when they're sick, i have a 3 year old nephew and almost 1 year old niece.
xx
2007-08-13 05:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can even take care of that many kids at once - your idea is like a mini business. To do that you'd need a business liscense. The area you plan on babysitting in would need to be approved, and you'd get a limit to how many children could be in that space. (One of my aunts owns an in-home daycare business.) Also, I know that if I were a parent I would not trust my child with two thirteen year olds when they have a whole group. If you had about 4 more people, it would be better - that's 3 kids per girl. But then you'd need to split profit with them. I think that both of you could probably manage about 4 kids maximum together, from ages 6 or 7 months to 6 or 7 years old. Also, you'll want to keep the kids in the same age range. A younger baby requires more attention. I've had friends that have babysitted two babies before, but more than that would be a lot of work. If the kids are under 3, I'd say to limit the amount to two kids at a time. (My mom and I took care of an 8 month old and a 2 year old together, and after a full day we were super tired.) As for prices, I'd say $5.00 a kid per hour. For one hour and two kids, You'd make $10 or $5.00 each. For one hour and 4 kids, you'd make $10.00 each. 60 one hour jobs with 4 kids would help you pay for one laptop. (Note sometimes you'd babysit 2 kids, and several jobs would be more than one hour, and some parents may pay you extra. I've heard of girls getting $75.00 an hour where I live - note this is unlikely. Don't request more than minimum wage. Most women 18 and over would request minimum wage for babysitting.) Also make sure that you are certified in heimlich, and maybe CPR, and have taken a babysitting class. Even if you are mature, a lot of little kids can be a huge pain in the butt! You don't want to do that!!
2016-05-21 06:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have not told you because she didn't want to risk you not taking care of her kids when she needed it. Yes, that's selfish, but she did what she had to do, in her opinion.
Since she's done this before, I would ask if her girls were sniffling or not feeling 100% the next time you plan on watching them. If she says no, and they still are, when she gets back I would sit her down and tell her that you feel that they were sick, even if she didn't. Give her a few suggestions, like blowing her girls' noses to see how bad it is or even asking them how they're feeling! Explain to her that your definition of "sick" may be very different from hers and that your first priority is the health of your own son.
If this is still a problem even after you talk, I would stop offering to watch her girls. If she asks you to watch them, let her know that you would really rather not because they keep getting your son sick.
2007-08-13 05:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Diet Peach 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that you offered, and that this was an emergency. Maybe there was no one else that could look after her kids? [and don't forget that could be her 'defense' in this matter]
-I'm not saying that it was your fault, just take that into consideration.
Since she has done this before, IMHO, you should tell her [try to be casual about it, and nicely, of course, if you don't want an argument] something along the lines of: "you know when i was over at your place? well, my lil one got sick from your two kids.. it seems that my def. of being sick and yours is somewhat different, but next time, I'd appreciate it if you could mention that your children have the sniffles, so I could leave my child at home, or drop him off at ____ [even if its a lie, it's a good lie!! lol] because this is isn't the first time it's happened'
Then see what she has to say. If she gets upset, just tell her that she wouldn't like her kids getting ill from another person, so she should have some consideration. Yes, it's over and done with, but do say something, parents do not want their kids getting ill just because someone failed to mention that person x was ill, even if it was just a runny nose, y'know?
..I hope my comment helps somewhat, and isn't too confusing, I think I'd better go to bed!
Hope your lil one gets better soon!
2007-08-13 05:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by pretentious username 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask her if the girls were sick because you intend to bring your son? If she says no. Ask her is they have the sniffles because your son easily catches them and would rather avoid that. If she says they girls do have the sniffles, tell her you would love to help but can't since you have to take care of your son. If she says no and turns out that they do and got your son sick. Call her and tell her that you think your son maybe a little more sensitive when it comes to sniffles than you have thought. And although you would like to help, you might have to back off in the future when her girls have the sniffles. If she says he can stay with his dad, tell her you have to take care of him and that your husband is busy.
I've seen this scenario before and know of some parents who even send their kids to school although they have a fever and opting to work at least half the day before the nurse calls them and says the kid is puking everywhere.
I'm not saying your friend is one of those, but given that you have a kid, you should put the welfare of your son first before of your friend. She should be understanding about this. And should stop relying on one person to help her all the time, especially, a non-relative.
2007-08-13 05:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I would nicely tell her to let me know when her kids are sick. But also keep in mind that when you alone are exposed to sick children, you can bring home the germs and infect your children that way too. She definitely should have told you in advance and let you make the descision of whether or not you should risk your child coming down with whatever her kids have. On the other hand colds are everywhere. Children are always exposed. It's also part of natures way of building the immune system. In my opinion a cold isn't a huge thing but the disregard for the well being of others is alot worse.
2007-08-13 05:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't have the kids problem, but I get very sick when I am around anyone even with a sneeze & it always turns to bronchitis or pneumonia. I have a bad liver and my immune sytem sucks because of it, anyway - I had to finally tell the people who would do that to me - I can not be around them if they were even hanging out with someone who was sick and if they were my friends they would understand. and it's not just the getting sick part that is hard - it's the added expense of missing work, dr. visits, prescriptions, etc. I lost a few friends because they thought it was stupid that a cold is not a big deal... but the rest were respectful of my request and even call me up first to let me know if they are ill so I don't just stop by. tell her about how you feel, if she is a friend she will understand, if not - then you do not need to worry about being her friend anymore - either way - you win..
2007-08-13 05:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by brandi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well your friend should have told you that her kids had stuffy noses EVEN if that isnt her definition of being sick. You should speak with her and let her know that everytime she does that your son gets inflicted and its not right. Next time she asks you to do her a favor ask her whats the girls conditions, its not fair your son keeps getting sick because your doing a favor.
2007-08-13 05:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her why she did not inform me that her children were sick so that my child would not get it from them. Tell her since she did not tell you, your son got sick and then I would tell her that she needs to pay for the medication and all for your son since you were not informed of it. It is her responsibility to let you know when they are sick if your son is going to be around them. It was not right of her to not tell you. You should definitely confront her about it and let her know how you feel. If she is a true friend she will accept that she was in the wrong for it and make up for it without getting angry with you about it. You were trying to help her out and she did this to you. It isnt right for her to do this.
2007-08-13 05:08:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the future before you take your kids over, ask her if her's have stuffy noses or any sniffles...if she says "no" and you arrive to find otherwise, then leave and let her know you don't want your child to become sick which is why you'd asked her the question re: the health of her kids before you came over.
Sorry your kid is sick...hope he gets over it quickly!
2007-08-13 05:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋