if your wife cheats on you and says she told you everything, but every 6 months more details come to light?

Question

and then everytime she tells you thats all, should you believe her?

Answer 1

Probably not. :(

Answer 2

No. You can't believe her. She is a liar and a cheat. Every time you think she has told you the last lie, and you start thinking you can rebuild your relationship and your trust, something new will come to light and you will be kicked to the ground all over again.

You have two choices: Stay and live a life of continuous heartbreak. Or leave, and get it all over with at once.

Answer 3

Either case does not make a difference.
She cheated ans is now being exposed, and what you don't know won't hurt you.
I think you are better off not listening to more details even if she volunteers to do so. Sometimes it's hard to forgive and forget if you know the WHOLE story.
Decide whether she is worth to be given another chance and whether your marriage is worth salvaging at this point. Period
What happened won't change a thing .
She probably still wants to be with you otherwise she would have left you by now.
If you still love her and want to be with her EVEN though she cheated, regardless of the details, you will probably stick around; however, there is no gurantee that she won't do it again in the future. But again, there are no guarantees in life anyway.
So, make your choice . . .!

Answer 4

I would have to say---NO>>>>>>if more details come to light then there is still more out there waiting to be said as well. personally, i would try to get it all out in the open and/or be done with the relationship. she will or has cheated more than once. and now there is no trust in the relationship which is a primary part of any relationship. after many years she could EARN her trust back, but..... you will always have those thoughts in the back of your mind. I realize this is your wife, but you really should look at this in a reality point of view. because many other questions will/could come up in future. i dont know if you have children, but this is one thing they dont need to grow up around. If you "really and truely" do love her, then you must face this situation upfront and honestly, you do your part to be honest with your feelings and hopefully she will do the same-although it does not sound like she will. then you need to decide what is right for you in your life.

Answer 5

No b/c how can it be over--how can you deal and move on--when there is all this lying? I mean trust is key. Trust, honesty and communication are the 3 more important parts and you have none of it.

She had an affair--thats a huge betrayal. She lied the whole time it was going on, lied afterwards, and has lied every single day since then. How can you possibly ever believe a word out of her mouth again?

Answer 6

No. She's a liar. She has no values or morals and you are being played. She is trying to downplay what happened and it is working because you are naive. Sorry but someone has to tell you like it is. She will always be a slut and cheat if she hasn't already the next time she will be smarter not to get caught, that is the only lesson she learned. Leave her.

Answer 7

First of all, why would the details matter? she cheated , enough said, enough to know, who cares about the details.. the damage is done and u obviously are trying to get over it, so why does it even still come up? And i doubt that u could give me every detail of your day yesterday perfectly every step u took.., step by step play of what u did, people u talked to.. etc.. let alone something that happened six months ago.. alot of times people think things are insignificant at the moment or merely forget until something today prompts a memory from a time before.. Someone u love gets in a car crash, do u actually care that they were eatting a big mac and fries while they were driving or what song was playing on the radio while they were driving or exactly what they were wearing at the time of the crash? No, ur focused on the fact that there was a crash, and why the crash happened..

And remember, anyone that does anything to hurt someone they care about, they will leave out details, the brunt of the hurtful thing is enough to deal with at that moment, and so as time goes by they tend to forget what they told u or didnt tell u.. and things to tend to come out.. but u need to ask urself, WHY do u feel the need to care about the details? does it make any difference in the fact that she cheated? And i realize just hearing anything from that time hurts.. and thats why if u and ur wife are going to survive this, u need to put a stop to talking about it, unless u absolutely have to.. if not the pain will just keep reoccuring and u'll never get through this, it will end up eatting u from the inside out. So YOU have to decide if u can really get over this or not, and if u really want to give ur marriage another chance , a real chance.. because if u cant get over it, then u need to back out of it, before either of u waste more time on a life that u dont want to have.

My x husband cheated on me, with a co-worker, and lied and lied about.. even for years later after we were divorced. As if he put a "nice" spin on it , it would change the fact that he actually cheated.. now fortunately years later him leaving was the best thing to ever happen to me..since its 11 years later he's now on wife number 3 and still a cheater.. (he actually tried to get me to cheat with him on his 3rd wife lol how ironic ) but at the time when he left, my heart was crushed, i had to small children with him, i was very much in love with him.. and only wished he'd see the error of his ways and come back to me and try to make it work.. I was never given that opportunity to even try, to have that second chance of possibly working things out.. everything happened so fast.. i catch on to the relationship, he admits to it, 2 weeks later he's moving in with her.. and 4 months later he asks her to marry him, and 2 weeks after that, he got his butt handed to him when he found out she cheated on him lol..

It sux that she cheated on u.. and that pain will neverrrrrrrr fully go away.. it will always be embetted in the back of ur mind, but if she really is sorry for what she has done, if your willing to try to give this marriage a 2nd chance.. if 20 years from now, she remains faithful and totally yours... will it be worth it? Will it be worth it to u and her and ur family? these are things u have to decide.. choices on u can make and not us answering these questions.. its ur heart involved not anyone elses.. but whatever u choose .. u have to do it with a whole heart and not half azz'ed or it will never get better, u cant stay and yearn to leave, and u cant leave and yearn to stay.. u have to choose which way u want to go, and focus on that choice..

Only u know ur wife, and only u know ur heart.. between those two u should know if this is salvageable or not..

Good luck

Answer 8

if more details are coming to light

then she didn't tell you everything

many people just want the basics, not the details , in a situation like that

Answer 9

I'll not take any step against her and I'll keep on believing her unless I witness by myself or I have a strong evidence which provides me a reason not to believe her.
Anyway, its difficult to live with doubts in mind.

Answer 10

I wouldn't believe her and don't pack your bags, Pack her's she the one that cheated tell her she can stay with whomever she was sleeping with.

Answer 11

Been there done that divorced her . She was so mad when she got the papers she told me more than I ever thought of doing .