Men tend to go on the prowl so much sooner than women do after a breakup. Don't you men take time to mourn what you had? Or is it easier for you to get over your pain this way? Please explain.
2007-08-13 04:51:19 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought it was the other way round
2007-08-13 04:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by bobthebrowser 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
We mourn, but I think too many times we men would rather put it out of our head (outta sight/outta mind, kinda thing). I think the mourning truly *and unfortunately* sets in once a new relationship has been quickly cultivated and then the man realizes he hasn't properly healed from the previous one. I don't think men strive to move on, it's just that the pain may be too much to bear and men want to keep that machismo, so they move on instinctively.
2007-08-13 04:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Semi-Evil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it is a gender issue.
I believe it really depends on why , and WHO broke up with who.
I've seen plenty of women hit the bar for either a quick revenge screw or to express their new freedom with the first cute guy they see.
you might be different than a lot of people.
I personally need to wait a while after a serious relationship,
if I still love a girl even after a break up I find it too difficult
to have sex with someone else.( it just doesn't work for me, if you know what I mean)
2007-08-13 05:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't get as attached as soon as women do. It's just part of what makes us different. You can't get over it any easier if they really meant something, but sometimes a distraction does make you feel better for a while. Even still, you have to deal with your feelings at some point.
2007-08-13 04:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Old Gregg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man but i can tell you that first of all, every man is different, meaning not all of them do that. But I do know that women have this feeling of attachment and they are very hurt after a break up, they can't move on right away. Men, don't get attached very easily. They get over break ups much quicker.
2007-08-13 04:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by ozo2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Myself, I don't jump right onto somebody else, I tend to review what went wrong and learn from it.
But most guys simply don't have the emotional capacity for that by the time a relationship sours. Let me put it this way, if he doesn't like the relationship, he stops caring. And when it's finally over, he's done caring. We don't really take any longer or less time, we just start sooner.
That's how it works, love, hope that explains something.
2007-08-13 04:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Zee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This depends on who initiates the breakup. If it's me, then I probably don't have as much invested in the relationship as she does, and it's easier for me to look around sooner.
If she initiates it, then I suffer a loss of self-esteem and self-validation, and it sucks. The quickest, easiest way to get it back is to look for someone else. It not only restores that self-esteem and validation, but it distracts me from the pain.
2007-08-13 05:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bill F 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to realise that men can actually be just as broken hearted as women, and can suffer the mourning for even longer. When men love, they love completely, but when they don't love but just kind of accept a relationship, they will find it much easier to get over it. So many men settle with women, then realise the women don't actually love them, whereas the women are still blinded by their loss of financial security.
2007-08-13 04:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay, this is a myth. Men don't talk about it as much. Men do move on faster perhaps, but because we don't talk and we hold stuff in, we hurt, I think, much longer. Ask any guy about the girl that hurt him in high school, they will remember and still hurt some. We go on and adapt, but we hurt too, just differently than women understand.
2007-08-13 04:56:30 · answer #9 · answered by scottjones61 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is fair to say that some women get over relationships fast and some men do. You can't say all men get over their ex fast or all women do.
All in all I would think generally men get over relationships faster because they are usually less emotional. Still, there are plenty of women who move on quickly as well.
2007-08-13 04:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by alius n 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any difference between men or women who "rebound" after a break up. There are factors involved with many of them involve children in the picture which hinders men or women to get involved quickly after a break up and they could care less about the need for "sex." Not all men and women are ruled by their libidos......
2007-08-13 05:01:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋