Divoriced since March kids came to visit for a coupe weeks I find out the BF of several months is picking up the kids 13 and 11 at airport. I'm I being dumb to be alittle pissed.
2007-08-13 04:27:53 · 13 answers · asked by Steven K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO no no! There is no reason for that. Don't leave the safety of the kids in the hands of a relative stranger.
He could be a kidnapper or worse! I would be extremely pissed and do everything I could to make that not happen, including not sending them to her. Let her call the police and tell them the unsafe practices that she is displaying, they will agree with you.
2007-08-13 04:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're not dumb, but there's no use having a cow over who picked the kids up at the airport, as long as they are safe.
If your wife is already in a relationship only five months after your divorce, she's a little whacky -- i don't approve of exposing kids to a new boyfriend or girlfriend until they have had time to digest the parents' divorces. i mean, is it even fair? NO! however, just because our ex's use bad judgement, doesn't mean we have to make comments about it to our children, or do the same, stupid things!
Your wife hasn't taken the time to readjust to life, grieve or "get over" the marriage -- it takes the average person a good year or two before they are emotionally prepared to move on. She doesn't have anything to give to anyone right now, and is likely trying to prove to herself, and possibly you as well, that she is still loveable. so this may be a rebound thing for her.
do your best, and don't worry about what she's doing. i'm sure that, even if she's sort of DUMB when it comes to having a new boyfriend around the kids already, she probably loves them and wouldn't put them in harm's way on purpose.
take care of YOU ok?
2007-08-13 11:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not at all.
So your children are to climb on a plane without you and be picked up at the airport by a total stanger?
I'm assuming that they don't know this guy.
I'm also assuming that a 13 and 11 year old knows better than to go to a strange city and climb in a car with some guy they have never seen before.
I would be livid.
2007-08-13 11:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you taken the time to figure out who this man is and what part he plays in the kids life.
I am currently seeing a woman with 3 kids, have met the father and he has no problem with me being with the kids alone.
Just as I have met my daughters mothers BF and have no problem with him being with my daughter.
Coming from a divorced home I am happy that she still sees 2 good functioning relationships without any hangups between the parents.
With that said if I did not think I could trust the BF that would be a whole different story, but it appears you do not know much about the new BF so that is something you need to find out.
2007-08-13 11:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by The Lorax 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Those are your children and their best interest is always at your heart so to answer your question no you are not. You need to talk to the ex and let him know that right now you are not comfortable with no one picking up your children but you or the ex and lets leave the new people out of it. B/C before your kids get attached to this person how do we know if its going to work or not. So say something please.
2007-08-13 11:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by babygyrl11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be pissed but you have to understand that the mother is in another relationship and trusts this man around the kids so assuming that they are safe why should it matter who picks them up and drops them off as long as both parties get to see the children and the children are safe
2007-08-13 14:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do the kids know him? In the future, if I was in your situation, I would go back to court and have a court order issued stating no third party is to pick up/transport/care for the children without both parents approval.
2007-08-13 11:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
He has NO business picking up your kids at the airport. If the mom can't get them, I wouldn't let them fly. You don't know this guy or his past. Definitely not responsible on the mom's part or on yours if you let them go.
2007-08-13 11:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by philosophy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you as a parent have the right to know everyone that your kids are exposed to. tell the mom that next time, you need to meet this person before putting your kids in the car with him. she deserves the same of you too!
2007-08-13 11:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From one mother to one dad. I don't think your kids need to be around some new bf. did you meet him? are your kids safe with him? I would be pissed and my kids would not be around the new bf who i never meet. Not be jealous just protect your kids. There your kids if you don't like it don't do it.
2007-08-13 11:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by gia00601 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋