I have two boys by my soon to be ex-husband. We seperated last year and I met a guy whom I got pregnant by. I tried to get my divorce before I found out I was pregnant but then I found out and the judge wouldnt give me a divorce until the baby was born. So now do I have to get a attorney because someone else's child is involved? Does the baby's father have to be a part of the divorce?
2007-08-13 04:11:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Me and my soon to be ex are in total agreement on everything. He's actually being really adult about it. And he has a new girlfriend, he has had for awhile. I just happened to get pregnant by my boyfriend. He's already ordered to pay child support.
2007-08-13 04:25:40 · update #1
no attorney is necessary. the reason the judge postpone was to be sure your ex isn't the biological father.. n no the baby father has no role in the divorce. attorney's are only necessary if a division of assets is required n no agreement cant be reach by both parties or custody/visitation cant be reach
2007-08-13 04:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. You can get a divorce without an attorney. But it is a very, very, very bad idea. All that will happen is that your husband WILL get one, and you'll be taken to the cleaners. The fact is that you just admitted you cheated on him before the divorce went through. That is a knock against you right there. And the fact is that even had this NOT happend, you would have wanted an attorney to make sure your other children were taken care of. I'd get on the horn with a lawyer as soon as you can. Good luck!
2007-08-13 04:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby's father doesn't have to be involved with your divorce at all, no. And a lawyer would be a smart idea just to be safe and make sure that you have all your rights accounted for in the divorce. Are you looking for full custody? shared custody? visitation? What about child support? There's a lot of things that you need to worry about with a divorce that has kids involved, so having a lawyer in your corner to make sure you and your kids are taken care of is always a good bet. Good Luck!
2007-08-13 04:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by firebugarts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually depends on the state you live in and whether or not you and your soon to be ex-husband agree on everything.
In the state of Florida, all you have to do is go to the court house, get divorce papers for a small fee. Fill them out, sign them. Return to the court house and pay the filing fee (couple hundred dollars) and then the clerk of court will take care of everything else.
Check online to see if your local clerk of court has a website and go from there...
2007-08-13 04:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your babys father needs to sign paternity papers. You also need to go back infront of the judge and tell him you want your new child born inside a marriage between you and your new man and that it is not right that he is not allowing the divorce to go through.. Id push it saying it will cause hardship for your new family. Also as long as your current hubby is playing nice you dont need a lawyer. If he is being a ***. Then get a lawyer.
2007-08-13 04:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends greatly on how you part. if you agree to divorce, and can equally divide property/assets/visitation and all of the things that a court of law usually determines in a divorce, certainly you can do it without the aid of an attorney. my parents divorced when i was six, and they never went to court to determine child support or visitation. they simply found a system that worked for both of them. as long as you can agree on how to part, there isn't any need to get an attorney involved.
2007-08-13 04:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is most unfortunate. Your children are going to suffer and be affected by this no matter who is involved. Do you plan to marry this new man?
In any case, you should seek legal counsel to find out the best way to handle this situation. If finances are an issue, try looking in the phone book for legal aid. Sometimes they can give you good legal advice for very low or no fees.
I hate to see families torn apart. I hope you have thought this through very carefully.
2007-08-13 04:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by notarycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be in your best interest (because of the complications of your new boyfriend and baby) to retain an attorney. I emphasize....GET YOURSELF AN ATTORNEY! you didn't think very clearly when you met the new guy and had sex did you? without being divorced first...that's against the law, didn't you know that? I think your ex has a good chance of taking you to the cleaners....a lawyer would know best.
2007-08-13 04:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by booooooooooooby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really might want to have an attorney in your corner to help for this one. If money is the issue, check around and ask people locally for recommendations to find a decent affordable lawyer. Best of luck to you!
2007-08-13 04:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you can do divorce pro se. Go to family court and ask the court clerk for previous divorce cases, copy the documents there.
2) look for marriage mediator. their fees are much lower than the lawyers. usual lawyer rates are $150-250 per hour. It can easily cost you $1,500 for an uncontested divorce case and it can go as high as you can imagine if it's contested.
2007-08-13 06:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋