My hus is addicted to internt porn and I dont normally see the pictures but he had one on the laptop when I got up early and I told him in a jokeing way later that i didnt want to see the young chics first thing in the morning and I would break the lap top! I noticed from tht point on he was drinking and strted in with bad language at me to me.This is not like him.Did I touch on a nerve ?Or what.?
2007-08-13 03:19:32 · 14 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as u see one guy here says apologize to him on breaking the lap top.I didnt really mean it but men may think a woman is trying to be controlling ect.The high rateing shows it was out a line on my part .Thanx
2007-08-13 07:04:23 · update #1
You threatened to break his laptop, and expect him not to be angry about that? A cheap laptop runs around $1,000. A good one can range up to $2,500 easily. How do you think you would feel if he threatened to break something valuable and expensive of yours? Yeah, you might feel a bit angry.
Later edit: I can't believe all the people saying HE has a problem and needs to be in therapy. YOU threaten to destroy personal property and it's HE who has the problem? I don't think so. You totally overreacted to a picture, a simple image on a screen. Your husband did nothing wrong, but you lashed out with a threat. Have you even apologized for threatening to break his laptop?
2007-08-13 03:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
2
2016-07-17 03:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the problem is not your marriage. But, his guilt about porn! Yes, he could be addicted to porn and knows it but, does not what to admit it. It's basically like being an alcoholic or a drug addict. The problem is there but does not want to face the problem.
He is also ashamed of his situation and weakness. That's another reason for his guilt. He's possibly thinking that it's not right to look at porn but can't stop.
But, the main thing is to look for patterns in his actions. What triggers his anger? His drinking? Is it really porn or could it be something else?
Talk to him of what he is thinking. If he blows up then you need to go to counseling together. Remember this will take months to figure out or fix so don't be in a rush. Don't jump the gun right away, figure out certain patterns that he is doing.
Good Luck!
2007-08-13 03:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cerealkiller 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime that we talk abou a man's porn habit I think it's a very sensitive subject. He might feel now like he has to keep his porn life separate from you since you said that you would bust his laptop if you saw other girls on his computer so early in the morning. Hopefully it'll die down and that was the only thing that sent him drinking and using bad language with you. If that's the case, then you know not to tease him about his porn ever again because it might result in the same actions.
2007-08-13 03:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen assorted contemporary Hollywood video clips? they're all a sort of sublimated porn. in case you advise do I watch porn produced via the so-called porn marketplace, no. yet no longer out of morality or distinctive function-purely through fact the production values are not any stable.
2016-10-02 05:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by osazuwa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have embarrassed him... I am addicted to that cr@p and yet I tell my wife I love her everyday, I am carefull to be sure I am there for her emotionally and physically. The drinking is a problem. Masterbation is one thing, an abusive drunk is an other.
2007-08-13 03:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I see two adictions here that talk about him having strong unsolved issues that might not even have to do anything with you. Having adictions in itself is a sensitive issue because acknowleding them means to us that we can't do it by ourselves. He needs counceling, and he needs it soon, but this as well is a sensitive topic, you can't force him to go, he needs to make that decision by yourself. This does not mean that you should put up with this crap, it means either he gets help, or you move on.
2007-08-13 03:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"did you touch on a nerve ??? " ---- i don't think there is any excuse for his behaviour. He has a problem and that problem is going to take him further down on a bad, dark road of emotional insults,
He needs to change for himself and for you. Talk to him about it nicely.
2007-08-13 03:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Zee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the drinking is more dangerous than the porn.
You don't want him to get addicted or anything right?
Just talk to him about it.
2007-08-13 03:26:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
drinking first thing in morning i dont think you should worry about the porn first fix the drinking problem!
2007-08-13 03:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋