..i love mixed race children and myself and my partner are very involved in both cultures, so my children would be also. But i am afraid of telling my family and how they might react. I just wondered what other people's general view was on mixed race children?
2007-08-13 03:19:26 · 27 answers · asked by hannah_love7 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm involved in a multiracial union (me-white, wife-black). We have two children, both mixed (obviously). Both of our families said they were either against it or hesitant, but now that they see we are good parents and that our children are raised in an intelligent, loving home, both families are happy. Most anxieties are overcome when those against it are faced with the fact that it is not going to change. Seeing our 2 kids beautiful faces helped to change that belief in an instant. I think this world is so diverse, inevitably mixing of races would happen. Rather than be so rigid, I hope people would have an open mind to accept this and know that people from different races are prepared to raise children who themselves will be mixed with different races. Acting like we don't "know" the trials that they may endure is silly. There are more stratified criticisms in the same ethnicity nowadays. Unfortunately this world can be cold, but loving your child regardless of their racial makeup will help them grow and understand their own meaning in this very diverse world.
2007-08-13 03:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Semi-Evil 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You cannot worry about what they think. It is their grandchild and chances are they are going to love the child no matter what. Where I live 80% of all children born in the last 10 years are mixed and there really isnt any issue with it. This is the only country that still has such a wide variety of people but that will end soon. The older the country gets the more we will mix together and become one race. Congratulations and enjoy the baby color does not matter!
2007-08-13 04:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by smoothazhoney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does your family know that your partner is black? Some families who seem to not have a problem with a multi-racial relationship get a bit racist when a baby is on the way. Others are exactly the opposite...once they realize that there is a grandbaby coming, their racism dissipates.
I would personally be more terrified of telling family members and friends that I was pg without being married first! I'm not slamming you, I just know that would bother my family and friends a ton more than the race issue.
As far as my personal view on mixed race children...they are simply children. Their racial origins are interesting in the way it's interesting whether or not you have a strong cultural identification with being Italian or Irish. Or whether your great great great great great great grandfather was on the Mayflower. Interesting tidbit, but not terribly relevant! Now, it will be relevant to closed-minded individuals. If your child were "just" white, you probably wouldn't want your kid hanging around Uncle Tim listening to racist jokes anyway!
2007-08-13 03:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kellie W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it makes for beautiful babies, and though I'm far from an expert in genetics, I can't help but think it deepens the 'Gene Pool', and that must be a good thing.
Since you used the word partner rather than husband, I am concerned about the long-term commitment you two will have in raising this baby. Even though there are all sorts of radicals out there saying "it CAN be done", it is still true that a married couple makes a more stable home for children to thrive in, and I believe it is the only way to go.
2007-08-13 03:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Minnesota Mama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a cousin who has 2 beautiful little girls and one on the way with her husband! She is white and her husband is black and they are very much excepted! You need to tell your family! Maybe they will be upset with you at first but as soon as they see their grandchild i'm sure everything will change and who know they may surprise you and except it right away! As far as my opion on mixed race children if you love your partner then nobody has the right to judge you or your child/children! Best of luck and congratulations
2007-08-13 08:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by deannafoster1976 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - we live in the year 2007 and have come along way from having issues with other race's in general. If you love your partner and get no problems from the people around you then you shouldn't worry about anything. You see I have the view that small minded and arrogant people will only have an issue with your kids. If you surround your kids by good, loving & open minded people then your child will have no problems and grow up with the understanding that they are like everybodyelse irrispective of their colour of skin. We are created in Gods image and he has no colour.
2007-08-13 03:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by TinkerBell 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion... best thing to do is be upfront and honest about the baby's father.. let them know that the child will be mixed from the start so that there won't be any surprises once the baby arrives. They may have concerns at the beginning, but once they see that little bundle of joy all those bad feelings will go away ! I don't harbor any bad feelings about mixed children. What's there to feel bad about ?? An innocent child is an innocent child regardless of skin color or ethnic background !!
2007-08-13 03:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm black and I'm pregnant with my white husband's baby. I'm not sure exactly what you're afraid of - is your family somehow disapproving of your partner? I thinkyou have to be a little bit selfish and realise that your about to start your own family - your parents will have to deal with this no matter what their issues are and I'm positive that once you give birth they will forget those issues and be full of love for your little bundle of joy! I have no issues and I feel like I see more mixed race kids these days than just white or black! Just focus on the positive and remember to nurture and love yourself. Stress is not good for growing babies! Good luck!
2007-08-13 03:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
in the past this usually was a problem for most people. In this day and age I know a few that have problem with it, but the majority of society does not look at it as a bad thing. After all we are all one--the human race!!
2007-08-13 03:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have several mulatto friends, my cousin married a black man just last week and has a son by him with a little girl due in January. I don't think there is anything wrong with people falling love with eachother no matter what their race or heritage it. Another cousin is engaged to a man who came to CT just a few years ago from Puerto Rico, my husband is a full blooded Mexican (his parents moved to the U.S. just two weeks before he was born).
2007-08-13 03:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋