My husband and I want to have a baby. It's not like we are definitely trying to get preggo, but we're not doing anything to prevent it. Anyway, the topic of a baby came up the other night and now he says that if I got preggo he would be happy, but otherwise he thinks it would be best if we waited 6 months to 1 year until we have a child..... Well, I told him that I can't just pop one out, it takes 9 months and that just pissed him off..... For as long as I can remember we have both wanted this, what is the deal with this new idea he has....
2007-08-13 03:16:55 · 11 answers · asked by kelynn1985 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Me and my guy talked about having a baby too. We both agreed that it would happen in time. Kind of sounds like the same convo you had with yours. In a year or two was the agreement. We didn't do much to prevent it and now I'm 7 months pregnant. haha. He was there when I found out and it was the best news we've ever gotten. The thought of babies will always scare men because of the level of responsibility it brings. If at first he seems withdrawn about it... it will really grow on him and I'm sure he'll be just as excited as you are. Good luck =)
2007-08-13 03:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Darling 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd be a little annoyed if you said that to me as well. The guy presumably has an IQ of above 50 so knows that a baby takes 9 months to develop. The point that he is trying to make is that he wants to wait 6 months to a year before you get pregnant not till you have the child. Your comment is pedantic and probably irritated him for making him sound like his view was stupid. I would apologize for the comment and talk to him about how he feels.
2007-08-13 03:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that conversation made the whole idea a little more real to him and a little nervous. His responses was a little hypocritical of himself if I understand it correctly..he's be happy if you got preggo but would like to wait a while..He needs to be a little more clear on which way ..I mean techinically if you got pregnant now It'd be 9 months before the child was born so you'd fall in that 6-12 month timeframe??
2007-08-13 03:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by pookiesmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking all the wrong people -you need to have a long -calm- talk with hubby.
It takes two to make a baby and two happy parents to take care of the child.
Please make very sure that this is what BOTH of you want before you proceed. You have another whole life to think about once you are pregnant.
2007-08-13 03:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you both want to have children but actually taking the first step toward it is scaring him. just try to calm him and remind him of all the reasons you wanted a baby in the first place. then agree to settle on whenever it happens it happens... now.. 9 months.. a year... the time will come when the time is right.
2007-08-13 03:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sarita 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is prob just haveing a little bit of nerves he may just be a little scared. Put the ball in his court tell him that if he does not want a child right at this moment that he needs to handle the birthcontrol.
2007-08-13 03:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Katy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are talking about, and i think it all just became real to him. talking about wanting a baby and actually getting one are 2 different things ya know what i mean. anyway i would just relax about it and know that he does want a baby and prolly just got a little exited. he will come back around in know time. good luck
2007-08-13 03:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's starting to regret the idea of having a baby too soon... as he reallizes there are responsibilities involved.. just talk to him about it.
2007-08-13 03:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what you just keep trying he is going to be happy regardless try to look over him and you try more then him he will be happy i promise he just wants to speed things up . good luck//// been there done it twice...////
2007-08-13 03:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure we don't have the answer but the word communicate comes to mind
2007-08-13 03:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋