I am 32 and have been dating a 30 year old guy for 1 year 4 months. We have had a lot of fights about jealousy. He is a very social person with a lot of female friends. He keeps meeting new girls all the time and I get to meet most of them too eventually. Recently he met a girl at work and they are emailing each other a lot and they walked home under the same umbrella when it was raing the other day. He was also asking his ex to visit him lately and when she was available he blamed that he would be travelling for work that time. I am feeling very jealous about it all. He says that I am possessive and should give him his privacy. He says he does not cheat on me and talks about me to all of the girls. For me he is "cheating emotionally" all the time with all of these girls. He was checking his blackberry all weekend, everytime I glance at it he hides it. He refuses to show it to me. He is hurt that I don't trust him try possess him. I am hurt there are girls and secrets. What you think?
2007-08-13 03:09:12 · 14 answers · asked by losing my mind 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may not be cheating even emotionally, but he sure is enjoying tormenting you. It's not polite to be with someone and constantly checking your email and phone. He is not treating you with the respect he should treat anyone with, much less his girlfriend. Why does he need to have so many female acquaintances, what's wrong with male ones? He is playing with your feelings, and you are better off without him and his games. Date a grownup with manners.
2007-08-13 03:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I think that it really has to do with the nature of your relationship. If you are just dating, he is allowed his freedom. If you are boyfriend and girlfriend, this is a different story. When yo first started going out, if he told you that he has a lot of girl "friends" then this is something that you chose to deal with. If you are in a committed girlfriend and boyfriend relationship, what hei s doing is dead wrong and you should leave him because it doesn't look like he is going to change. If you are just dating and you are interested in a different kind of relationship, I would let him know, but it doesn't seem like he is the one women type. Although you like him, you may have to let him go to find someone that can be totally into you. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-08-13 03:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets get this straight - your bf has many female friends that not a problem its normal. He is very secreative of his blackberry, has asked his previous ex to visit and out of the blue will be traveling work related as he saids. Listen up girl this is not jealousy this is your intuiation telling you he is playing the field and its time to give the boot.
2007-08-13 03:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by beliz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have different values. You think he is cheating on you emotionally. He doesn't. In my experience, there are many things two people can get over and make a relationship work. A significant difference in values is not one of those things. It is time to sadly say good-bye to this relationship and find a man who shares your values.
2007-08-13 03:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is secretive because there is something to hide. Often we ignore our instincts and try to give people the benefit of the doubt. He may not be having sex with these women, but he is getting them emotionally involved. This will lead to trouble.
Trust your instincts and move on!
2007-08-13 03:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by mama4 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is doing some shaddy things behind your back and trying to make it seem like your paranoid which is the first sign that he is cheating. A cheater always transfer the fault to the person making the accusations...I would get rid of this guy...if he wanted to be with you he'd get rid of his girl friends because he doesn't need them.
2007-08-13 03:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he cheats on you with these girls. You don't hide anything if you are not doing anything wrong. Unless of course he wants to make you feel insecure and then he is playing games. Make your choice , cause this is what you will deal with , with him if you want to be with him . Your not growing younger .
2007-08-13 03:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by margo322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him then you shouldn't be with him. It'll just hurt you in the long run. Obviously, he has different values than you when it comes to "appropriate" behavior in a relationship. Sorry, sweetie, but it's time to cut him loose.
2007-08-13 03:17:07 · answer #8 · answered by ohmygosh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He likes being so popular with the girls, he is not ready to be with just one woman. Either go along with this or find yourself and man instead of a boy...
2007-08-13 03:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you don't belong together!
Find yourself a man you can trust, who doesn't feel the need to hide things from you. You'll be MUCH happier!
2007-08-13 03:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋