I have a cap collection and my dorm-mates GF stole my fav ball cap. She asked can I wear it. I said Yes for the night. Then she never returned and she refuses to give it back. She is sort of tough and she has been wearing the hat alot. I have thought about taking it off her head, but I know she will try to strong arm and I am quiet, but not one to back down. She may throw a punch and if I punch back I'll be known as a woman hitter.. Then if I call campus security for theft, I'll be known as tattle tale. Fair is fair and I want my hat! Please advise?
2007-08-13 02:59:16 · 12 answers · asked by Peter W 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
CNJRTOM, I am sort of a sensitive man, and sensitive to others. I would never have done what she did by keeping my hat. But, I will tell you this. I am so mad about this, that if she does hit me - I will probably end up hitting her to the point where I teach her a lesson and make a point. sad, to say, but in the past the good guy routine got me NO-WHERE with woman.
2007-08-13 03:15:21 · update #1
I would speak to your dorm-mate and tell him that he needs to speak with his GF. You either want your hat back or the money that you spent on it.
If you get neither then you have no choice but, to report her to campus security.
2007-08-13 03:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her wearing the hat point out some facts.
So why do you insist on wearing something that is mine instead of (your dorm mates name)?
Do you realize your acting like a elementary school girl who has a crush on a guy and constantly does things to piss him off...? Then look your nose down on her and say.. If that is the case let me tell you I do not like thieves! And I am not attracted to childish women.
Lastly if it does not work then I would make a scene in front of some people when she has your hat on.
2007-08-15 17:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by honeykoen1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly state to your dorm-mate that you want your hat back. If you still don't get it back, I would avoid socializing with that pair. When they realize they have control over your actions, your life will become even more miserable. Do you have a friend who wouldn't mind snatching that cap back?
Don't be lending any hats to anyone again, unless you are willing to take the chance of losing it again. Hard lesson learned and I hope it all works out.
2007-08-13 10:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Campus police don't want to be bothered by things like this.
Something tells me that you’ve already spoken to your dorm mate about this, and he feels defenseless in getting it back. He needs to rethink his relationship with this girl if she “borrows” something, then doesn’t give it back. Some women like to get “souvenirs” from old boyfriends.
Is there someone she respects that is a mutual friend? Go to her directly with this friend, and tell her that she WILL give you the hat back. If she still refuses, take it off her head, and leave! You don’t need to put yourself in a position of having to deal with someone potentially hitting you!
If that doesn't work, then let her friends know she steals things.
2007-08-13 10:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Peter tell your room mate to get the hat back I doubt that he is scared of her.and besides I wouldn't let her back into ya'll's room until she gives the hat back.She is selfish and I wish I could have a hack at her. I have a lot of favorite hats too so I know what you mean.Tell her to put her money where her mouth is and either give you the hat back or she has to pay for it so that you can replace it.Man I wish I could get it for you cause I promise that she would never ask you for anything again.good luck
2007-08-13 10:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you really want the hat back, and tell her if she doesnt give it back you will be forced to use harsher means. Tell your dormmate that this is bull, and he needs to get the hat for you. Or take something important of his or hers, and tell then the only way they will get it back is if your hat is returned...I know 2 wrongs dont make a right, but its better then being a snitch or a woman hitter
2007-08-13 10:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Stephanie♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lorelei. Your dorm-mate needs to deal with his girl.
Or take the hat off her head and take the punch. Don't hit back. She can't punch that hard.
2007-08-13 10:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by CNJRTOM 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a bully, & don't hit her!
First, ask your dorm-mate to get it back for you. If that doesn't work, ask her in a firm but gentle voice that you only loaned her the hat [you didn't GIVE it to her], and you'd like it back now. Maybe try to appeal to her sense of "fairness".
If that doesn't work, then BS out-right to her. Tell her your favourite Uncle gave it to you & he died recently in a car crash. She's be a pretty heartless girl to not give it back to you then.
See girls? You FORCE us to lie to you b/c of your bullying ways.
2007-08-17 07:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you dorm-mate to tell his gf to give it back or one of them will need to give you some money to by another. make sure your friend knows your being serous about it and you really want it back or you want some money. and it he is any friend at all he will talk her into giving it back or pay for it. good luck . oh yeah and if he doesn't then i would probably rethink yalls friendship.
2007-08-13 10:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take pictures of all your stuff so you can ID it as your own if it happens again. Buy another hat or tell her it has your 'genetic material' on it from a previous drunken experiance.
2007-08-13 10:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by tacs1ave 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋