Some hint,
I was working and my husband wasn't. Whenever I go to work he brings a woman in the house. He asked me to call him before coming home always, b'cos he would not let me have a spare key. Sometimes I find my towel wet when I ask him, he will tell me has use it. later the woman became pregnant. I decided to quit b'cos I can't share a love or a husband.
2007-08-13 02:50:54 · 9 answers · asked by NJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hello...
please DO NOT get together with some guy just because "your son needs a father"!!!
if you meet someone nice one day, and are compatible, then you could consider marrying.
we don't just fall in love at the drop of a hat.... if we are not in love or happy with our choice of partner or boyfriend, how can we expect a marriage to work? it takes TIME (and a good 2 years or so) to develop a relationship. less than a couple years, and you are not really going to know the person very well.
and another thing -- not everyone makes a good parent or step parent. you need to be selective in who you choose to date and/or marry.
meanwhile, do productive things with your son. you didn't mention his age. i can tell you that my kids and i used to color together, they'd decorate cookies for me, we had a "movie night" and a family night (sometimes we went for hikes or walks or picnics).
your son needs YOU right now. there are a lot of very inexpensive or free activities you can do together.
and the truth is, neither of my chldren's fathers were worth a damn, but they both had ME!.. they are now 21 and 31 years old, and we are very close...
hugs
2007-08-13 03:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take some time to get over the hurt of how you were betrayed. Be glad that you made the steps to preserve your dignity.
Your son needs a good male role model. You can help him find that in a pastor, a uncle, a coach, or just a good friend you know. Don't rush into a relationship to have a man in his life. Trust me, the man may not give your son what he needs.
You should be a good mother, and also be good to yourself.
The right man will come along when you are right with yourself.
2007-08-13 03:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by mama4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be looking for a man because you feel your son needs a father. He would be so much better off without a guy like the one you told us about. Kick this guy to the curb, get a job and just live your life. A good guy will come around when the time is right... Good luck.
2007-08-13 03:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, just forget about this guy. If every time a man told you that you looked good or the he was in "love with you" your marriage would be over already and you know it. So just forget about him, and get into your hubby's arms. So to answer your question YES IT IS WRONG!VERY VERY WRONG! How would you feel if your husband had those kinds of thoughts? How would you feel if your husband cheated on you? How would you feel if your husband left you because your being stupid? This guy that "loves" you has no respect for his wife, for your husband, or for you. He has proved that by actually saying anything but hello to you. I hope that your husband does not find out that you are actually thinking about cheating on him, because that would break his heart. Do the right thing and stop yourself NOW
2016-05-21 05:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has a father. Granted he does not sound like a great father figure, but he is your son's father. However, there surely are other men in your life, such as your father, a brother, uncle, cousin, etc. I would suggest asking one of these people if they would step in and allow your son to spend some time with them.
2007-08-13 03:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Debi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to fall in loe or marry again... Just make sure you don't jump in to things... And don't do it just because your son needs a father.. That is ridiculous.... He does NOT NEEED a father.... my brother and brother both grew up without fathers and we are just fine. And so are alot of other people out there. Your son needs YOU to be there for him and not worry about finding someone to take his father's place.
2007-08-13 03:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to know the situation. Be 'tit for tat' and fulfill your wish for your son, if allowed legally in your country.
2007-08-13 03:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too right. Dont be a doormat for pathetic losers
2007-08-13 03:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice try buddy, get a life.....
2007-08-13 03:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋