People don't choose it?

Question

Why do ppl think ppl chose to be bisexual?
I sure didn't choose to be bisexual. And ppl don't chose to be gay or straight. It's retarded.

plz tell me the answer.

Answer 1

Sexual Orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual or affectional attraction to another person -- Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive homosexuality to exclusive heterosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality.

Bisexual persons can experience sexual, emotional and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex -- People with a homosexual orientation are sometimes referred to as gay (both men and women) or as lesbian (women only).

Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior because it refers to feelings and self-concept. People may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.

There are numerous theories about the origins of a person's sexual orientation; most scientists today agree that sexual orientation is most likely the result of biological factors.

In most people, sexual orientation is shaped at an early age. There is also considerable recent evidence to suggest that biology, including genetic or inborn hormonal factors, play a significant role in a person's sexuality.

In summary, it is important to recognize that there are probably many reasons for a person's sexual orientation and the reasons may be different for different people.

Human beings can not choose to be either gay, straight or bisexual -- Sexual orientation emerges for most people in early adolescence without any prior sexual experience.

Psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a conscious choice that can be voluntarily changed.

Answer 2

Hi. To start with, I am gay. I certainly didn't choose this. Being straight would be a LOT easier. My father is fully anti-gay, and the place i live at uni (dorm/college) is dominated by sportos (jocks).

I believe a common theory is that homosexuality can be caused by high levels of some endocrine in the mother during pregnancy. I can not cite a source for this.

People believe it is a choice because homosexuality is not shown on the outside. Having red hair, or black skin, or big feet is shown on the outside, so it is not believed to be a choice. Your favorite flavour of icecream, or your like/dislike of TV shows are choices (sort of) but they are hidden from first glance. Who you are attracted to is lumped with them. The logic is sound (sort of), but it is not the truth.

My best guess is that people believe it is a choice because bisexuals and homosexuals don't appear different on the outside, because they're not that different. The only difference is who they love.

Answer 3

i do believe that its a choice to be made by the individual. i think that we r all born bisexual and as we grow up, we make our choice to either like guys or girls...or both. i personally go for both, but lean towards girls. i do disagree with ppl who say that we can be influenced into being straight. i think we r who we r, and i dont plan on changing any time soon.

Answer 4

I think most of it is lack of information, if you do some reseach on internet you will find many information about this subject. I believe people would understand more if sexuality could be taught in schools, I've learned about AIDS, other sexual diseases, how to use a condom but nothing about sexuality.
Of course the bible is a huge influence. Honestly I was checking a website about the bible and by reading it I got impressed on how people discribe homosexuality as something evil, I even passed out after that because I didn't see any kind words, we are abnormal...why?. They take things to the extreme, the bible itself is full of prejudice, you can't do this, you can't do that, you are a sinner, you have a perverted mind.

Check this out!

"Homosexuality must be accepted for what God says it is-- sin. Some homosexuals will attempt to circumvent the plain teaching of the Bible with the insipid reply that they are the way God made them. There is not the slightest bit of evidence in Scripture to support this false concept. God never created man with a so-called "homosexual need." No baby is born a homosexual. Every baby is born male or female. In every place the Bible refers to homosexuality, the emphasis is upon the perversion of sexuality. The practicing homosexual is guilty of "leaving the natural use of the woman" (Romans 1:27), meaning that his behaviour is "against nature" as in the case of the lesbian (Romans 1:26). Inasmuch as homosexuality is opposed to the regular law and order of nature, the genetic concept must be ruled out completely. If homosexuality were a genetic problem, there would be little hope for the homosexual simply because there is no way that the genes in a person can be changed."

"However, to call a union of two persons of the same sex a "marriage" is a misnomer. In the Bible, marriage is a divinely ordered institution designed to form a permanent union between one man and one woman for one purpose (among others) of procreating or propagating the human race. That was God's order in the first of such unions (Genesis 1:27, 28; 2:24; Matthew 19:5). If, in His original creation of humans, God had created two persons of the same sex, there would not be a human race in existence today. The whole idea of two persons of the same sex marrying is absurd, unsound, ridiculously unreasonable, stupid. A clergyman might bless a homosexual marriage but God won't."

Now imagine you growing up with this stick in your head! the chances that you become a homophobic is pretty high and if you happen to be gay you will probably kill yourself.

Answer 5

Sexual attraction, unlike sexual acts, is based on biological factors and is definitely not a choice.

Scientific researchers who specialize in human sexuality have shown that homosexuality is linked to biology and genetics.

An October 2004 scientific research publication stated that scientists at the University of Padua have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men. This fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men, and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation.

Another scientific study said that researchers have known for years that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers, but the new study found that the so-called "fraternal birth order effect" persists even if gay men were raised away from their biological families. Anthony F. Bogaert, Ph.D., professor at Brock University, said "The research suggests that the development of sexual orientation is influenced before birth."

The older-brother effect was constant regardless of whether the men were raised with natural, adopted or stepbrothers. It also didn't matter if they weren't raised with their biological mothers. If gay younger brothers and older brothers don't have the same home environments, what do they have in common? "They shared the same uterus, the same womb, the same mother," Bogaert said.

Answer 6

you cant help what attracts you to someone else.
ever want to shut a redneck up with this topic. when they ask you why cant you like men(im female) i told him, why cant you? im a straight man in a womans body, im two steps from a man(minus the important stuff) but gay str8 or i still love me
as a friend. you cant help who turns your head or runs away wtih your heart. as i have found out this year. dont worry about justifying your feelings for the ones that dont matter.
make better use of your time showing the ones that you love
that you love them. time is short, so live love laugh and dream.

Answer 7

well let me put this this way i don't know if aim on the right track here' but any way i see bisexual as easy and are willing to sleep with any to get off, if one don't work ill go for the other it doesn't matter to me and i do believe you have a choice one or the other

Answer 8

Of course people choose whom they have sex with. Why do you thing having sex with someone is genetic?

There is absolutely no proof or indication that being gay is genetic. You are more likely to come from a divorced home raised by your mom than to have any gay members in the family tree.

To say that you "were born like that" removes all personal responsibility from your decision.

Answer 9

I complety agree with you. I really cant tell you that it is going to be easy place to stand. You really stand in between two worlds. I have been there and it is a hard place to be. I know it is unfair to say tha t you have to pick or that you have a choice to be bi. You just like multiple markests.

Answer 10

People think that you choose your sexual orientation because they are ignorant and don't want to accept change. They figure, "Hey, it's a choice right, so we can "fix" it." Wrong, people need to come to accept that we are who we are, we are born this way and there is nothing, they, or us for that matter can do about it. And even if we could do something about it, I highly doubt that anyone would want to change who they are.