i heard somewhere that children who live in divided households,meaning,they live in two different residences as the result of shared custody, should have their own bedroom,in both houses,if at all possible??? esp.when there are other children from a second marriage????it all makes sense to me ,but, could you argue the point???? like explain what could happen to the child negatively and positively {if there is any positive}, if they do not have their "own space" in at least one of the residences????
2007-08-13 02:24:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well....I remember feeling really unwelcome in my fathers house.....2 "step" children and "step" mother......but no indication that my sister and I had a place or right to anything......
If we had had space that was our own it would have made everything much easier.
As it was...we HATED visiting my father and wanted to stop seeing him.....but he insisted on his rights as a father.
2007-08-14 07:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by psychokitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to put a general rule on children is a shortcut for thinking!
It all depends on the circumstances and the individual children's personalities and coping skills.
I am a single father of two kids, a boy and a girl who are 18 and 15 now.
My son lives with me 100% of the time and my daughter spends her time between my house and her mother's (we live about 15 minutes away from each other)
Joint custody can work, but it takes a great deal of effort on everybody's part.
However, in the long run, it is always in the best interest of the children to have both parents as actively involved in their children's lives as possible.
There is no substitute for your real mom and dad!
2007-08-13 09:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by runninfool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with all of the turmoil involved in the divorce and shuttling back and forth, it is nice for the child to have a place of their own that isn't being invaded by new siblings that they didn't ask for and probably resent. there has also been evidence that it is actually in the best interest of the children for the PARENTS to shuttle back and forth. meaning, the kids stay in the same house, in their same living arrangement and the parents rotate weekends in the house. i know this may seem unreasonable, but it was the parents who decided to divorce so they should be willing to face the consequences and uproot their lives rather than forcing the children to deal with their decisions. it is all about creating stability for the children.
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2007-08-13 09:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they don't have to have their own bedroom. But they do need to have their own bed and boys & girls can not sleep in the same room.
Shared custody isn't as bad as people make it seem.
2007-08-13 09:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, divorce is very expensive. Positive and negative effects of a child getting their own room are moot compared to does the child have enough food?
2007-08-13 09:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
shared custody does not work! All it does is confuse the child and is really hard on the parents too.
And my daughter asked to share a room with her new baby sister (from my current husband).
2007-08-13 09:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Any one can argue any point, yes they need their oun space.
2007-08-13 09:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋