dont you just hate people who say us mums on the dole are scroungers?

Question

listen not being funny but us 'dole mums' probably do more work in one day than those who work do in a week, so just to clarify i dont work because i get DLA & have 3 kids, so dont tell me i dont work!! gimme me a AMEN lol

Answer 1

Amen lol! My sister is in the same boat, her son is too young so she cant go out to work and her partner left her. What the hell else is she supposed to do?

Answer 2

Nope, in the UK being a single mother is a career choice. Why should we pay for single mums to sit a home in a council house (paid for by tax payers) and given benefits (paid for by taxpayers).

If you are a single mum through a tragic event (your partner passed away) then I sympathise but if its simply due to a wreckless and hedonsitic lifestyle then why the hell should we pay for your mistakes?

I tell you who works harder than a single mum, any parents who have a family and a full time job.
Why don't you try that instead?
Are your kids at school?
If so you can get a job.

Blimey and as if to anger me even more you then post a question stating you need a Wii, now either this is a poor attempt at humour or you are trying to buy your children a games system. The benefits people recieve are to help, not give a way of life. Get a job you sponging lowlife, even if you are on DLA and have a disablilty you can still work. Companies are not allowed to discriminate so have to employ you if you suceed at interview.

Answer 3

The society needs to distribute its wealth a lot more fairly. They should pay workers a lot more otherwise there would always be this scenario which you mention. People who work and get the minimum wage work hard and deserve more than 6 pounds an hour. The money will have to come from the big bosses salary. These bosses work hard, too, but sometimes people "at the bottom" work harder than they do. I am a language tutor at a uni in the UK. For each other I teach, I get paid £ 20, but for each other I teach, I need to spend at least one to two hours on preparation (designing the course, invent language activities, photocopying...etc), and another hour or two marking. You work out how much per hour I get paid working as a teacher. I am not on the dole because I am lucky enough to have a job although it exploits my knowledge and teaching skills, but at least I am benefiting our society by teaching although I end up with less than the minimum wage.

Answer 4

There are dole mums and dole mums. You get the one type, who has a couple of kids from the same father, who is a victim of circumstance and generally a result of a break up of the family unit. Then you get the dog-mum. This creature usually has a genetic mish-mash in her litter....you know the score...big, small, short, fat and have a collective appearance like the kiddies United Nations. I have every sympathy for mum no 1, but no 2 should have her dole cut off until she gets her tubes tied.

Answer 5

hmmm, it depends, it has two sides. there are mums who deserve it e.g. single mums, no money coming in from the father, no father to help, no income with the child being under school age and day care can be very expensive.

but then there are mums who have husbands who work all day or they do get money off the father to pay for stuff like clothes and day care centres so that the mother can go out to work.

my mum didn't go back to work until we were all in school and my dad had to work from 6 am till 10pm just to make ends meet and we never scrounged off the government, but SOME mothers take advantage of the welfare state and think that even though their kids are at school they still have a right to sit at home and let everyone else earn money for them.

and no offense, but the disability is a stupid excuse. i know plenty of disabled people, mentally and physically who work, my best friends dad broke his spine and is lucky to be alive, he is in a wheelchair and still works with a full time job and is a single dad to 3 teenage girls with no help what-so-ever from the mum.

Answer 6

There is a difference between wanting to be on the dole and needing it. A flat backer who just pops out more kidlets to stay on the dole in my opinion should have her 'money maker' taken out of production. If, a woman is widowed, left destitute, or had the bottom fall out of her life, then yes, she should be eligible for the dole, but only as a means to getting herself on her feet and being able to go to work and provide for herself and kidlets. Society is more likely to look kindly on the single mother who says 'help me make a better life for my kids' than the one who says 'look I just had kid #5, can you up my dole now'....

Answer 7

I think the problem is that people see that you are getting money for having kids and staying at home... where as others have earnt their money by working hard and struggle to make ends meet and pay their taxes so that you can live the life of luxury!
For instance....
I am married and have two children.
When my kids were preschool age i still worked in the evenings waitressing to pay for the things we need and my husband had a full time job.
Now they are school age i work a full time job too and do my housework and I am also a mum... Now you tell me whats stopping you doing that and not scrounging off of the government!?
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Further to that my mum was a single mum and she worked 2 jobs.. We never wanted for anything and never ever ever scrounged off of the government!

Answer 8

I am a stay at home mum, but not on benefits cos my husband works, but if he left me then i would be on benefits cos i wouldn't want other people looking after my kids. I don't think some of these people read the bit that you are on dla either, it means disability benefit for those of you who are critisizing and means that she cannot work because of a disability of some kind.
I have three kids too and am the main carer for them, as my husband is allways working, and it is really hard work just keeoing them all clean, tidy, and fed, and keeping a clean house and getting dinners and washing and ironing done etc.
Some people go to work 9 - 5 and then do nothing else all evening. My day starts at 6am when youngest child gets up, and doesn't finish till about 8pm when they are finally all back in bed. Then my youngest wakes me up 3 times a night still just for a fresh bottle. Not to mention when one of them is ill.
Being a parent is hard work and don't let anyone knock you for that.

Answer 9

thing is people who pay tax are paying for you to stay at home and raise your kids. no one told you to have kids and if you think it is hard work then stop having them. the system works because we pay into it, if everybody thought like you we would have no free education or healthcare and people who did not work would be made homeless and starve. i personally have nothing against you, but do not delude yourself that you are contributing anything to an abused system, and your children will always know that they were raised by the state and not you.

Answer 10

I think in a lot of cases the state has taken on the role of husband & provider for these mothers.

But the state was quite content to allow the breakup of the traditional family, so it is hypocritical of them to complain.

Answer 11

I have no problem with stay at home mom if you have a husband who can afford to support the household by themselves and not be on welfare . I raised two sons by myself and I never took a dime of welfare yes it was hard and my kids never had extras ,but they had what they needed . so I would not say that any mom that is on welfare is lazy they just cannot afford the child care costs of working .