2007-08-13 02:20:23 · 6 answers · asked by freind 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't make in-laws get along if they don't want to! You can try to reason with them, but if they are on a mission to make life miserable for you they only cut themselves short. Some in laws just have no manners or class about themselves and can just be hateful and hurtful. They think the whole world revolves around them and everybody else better bow down to them! They can be controlling and think their way of life is the way to be and if you don't fit into their little click then they believe that something is wrong with you! They lack social or proper communication skills and would stand there and argue with a stop sign!! When inlaws put so much stress in your life and there is no comfort when around them they give other's no choice but, to avoid them. Your damed if you do and your damed if you don't and it's a no win situation.It's all about them and never about you and they sink deeper into their own pit of rudeness because you quit coming around because they miss beating you up! They choose to not get along because they enjoy all the drama and don't want to make things better. The only thing that we can do is stay away from them and focus on our own immediate family. My inlaws have every right to not like me but when I have to be around them for any reason It is my right to be respected. If they can't do that I would not say a word but ...I would get up and leave.
2007-08-13 03:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to get along. You are married to your husband not his family. What I am saying is we don't all get along so don't force it. All you are doing is making the stress on you and eventually your marriage worse. It is normally when we stop forcing things that they fix themselves. See we can't fix a problem if we don't know what the real problem is and it doesn't appear that people ae trying just as hard as you are. If they wont cooperate then just lt it be. Talk to your husband and let him know that you love him and how hard you have tried to get along with his family. Then let him know that you are not going to try so hard any more. Let him know that you will still be cordial. Your primary concentration is your life with your husband and everything around it will work itself out. You will still have to communicate because they are family. Always take the high road. Never be mean and nasty but remember that you can't make people like you.
2007-08-13 02:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hon...
stop trying! just be yourself... you don't have to put up with people who don't treat you well, either.
you didn't say what happened, or anything about the situation, but don't be a door mat.
if your inlaws are annoying, you are probably going to have to IGNORE them and accept them at face value..
do not react to them -- just go about your business as if they aren't there.
live for YOU and do what is right for YOU.... worrying about others doesn't make sense...even if they are your inlaws.
take care.. sending hugs
2007-08-13 02:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your spouse deal with their family...your spouse needs to tell them you either respect my spouse or I will have nothing to do with you...I chose my new family. That's what my father did with his parents, who hated my mother, he put them in their place however my grandmother still hates my mom but she's nice to her...I think it was more important to my grandmother to maintain a relationship with her son, and at the time - potential grandchildren. There isn't much you can do it's your spouses job to fix the situation.
2007-08-13 02:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them as much as possible
2007-08-13 02:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I got rid of mine, no lie.
2007-08-13 02:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋