She has been trying for 2 years and is undergoing tests for fibroids. She has been told if she got pregnant she may end up losing the baby and possibly have to have a hysterectomy. Now I am pregnant after trying for 2 months and don't know how to tell her. She is a friend as well as my boss.
2007-08-13 01:59:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
As a friend you need to come forward and tell her your going to be a mother soon maybe during her break or when it's an appropriate time during a conversation. If your afraid this will hurt your relationship, it shouldn't. As long as you don't go flaunting infront of her face pointing at your belly and jumping around lol you'll both still be friends. Just share with her your great news and excitement and let it rest until she brings up the topic again.
She may be a little upset at herself for not being able to have a child or maybe not upset at all, but extatic about your news.
Congrats! good luck on your pregnancy :)
2007-08-13 02:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how you feel but I know how she feels or would feel I have been trying to get pregnant for 7 months now and I just found out about 2 weeks ago that my best friend is pregnant (she took the test with me) and all though a part of me is jealous in a way my happiness over comes that. I am sure she will happy for you as long as you dont throw it in her face which I am sure you won't. Just tell her that your pregnant but still be there and support her through her issues with infertility and I am sure she will be just fine. No offense but you can't stop your life because she is having some problems be happy and enjoy your pregnancy. Good Luck
2007-08-13 02:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Trying4Baby#3 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she's ur friend then she should understand that not everyone has a problem. It might make her upset but tell her that ur preg as soon as u can because it might make her feel worse if u keep it from her.. like hurt her feelings. Talk to her and tell her that ull bring ur baby in and she can help take care of it and come over the house and play with ur baby too.. Its really sad when people try and they cant and everyone around them has kids but be there for here... and dont keep it from her.
Thing is life are complicated & not everyone is alike.
2007-08-13 02:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kandoo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't tell her until after your first trimester anyway - it's never good to tell ANYONE before then.
You obviously have to tell her, so why not just take the band-aid approach. Just get it over with, something simple like "I'm pregnant" will do. She's not going to stop being your friend, she'll still be able to share in your happiness. It may actually relieve some of her anxiety because she'll have a friend who she can ask questions about pregnancy.
The thing is - you don't know how she'll react, it could be good or bad. But after month 3 I'd get it over with so she doesn't think you're hiding things from her as a friend.
2007-08-13 02:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
very hard and i feel for you, however, it's not your fault she can't have children and it would be better to tell her sooner rather than later.
this simplest thing to do is this:
imagine being her....wouldn't you be happy for a friend/employee who was pregnant? i mean, as an adult and grown woman, wouldn't you be happy that they were having a child. sure, it will be bittersweet, but ultimately, i think she will be happy for you.
my cousin and his wife chose not to attend my baby shower b/c they were trying to no avail. they still congratulated us and wished us well. i felt sad for them, but i was over the moon about our pregnancy and there's no reason i shouldn't have been happy. i can't make them get pregnant....right?
so, just let her know and tell her how you feel. say, i feel awkward telling you this b/c i know how much you've been going through, but i wanted you to hear it from me....i'm pregnant.
i bet you will get a smile and a big hug.
take care:)
2007-08-13 02:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by joey322 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she has known other people who has been pregnant in the past 2 years.
You might want to wait and tell her when you are 3 to 4 months pregnant. That way you will know if all is going well for you and maybe she'll have good news for herself by that time.
2007-08-13 02:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Aliz 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Take her for a coffee or for lunch, somewhere quiet and just tell her (take some tissues with you, you both may need them). No doubt she will be over the moon for you, maybe a bit sad/jealous of you but she will be really pleased for you. She may be worried if you have been quiet at work lately that you may be leaving and be happy you are not leaving.
2007-08-13 02:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is she your friend or boss, share the news with her. Its possible that it might help her also.
If she has health issues, maybe she should get her eggs frozen and have someone be a surrogate mother. Certainly better then ruining your health.
2007-08-13 02:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that you are prgnant. End of story. She'll find out anyway. Isn't it better to be up front with a person?
2007-08-13 03:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by catsmeowjrk2000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one, as gentle as you tell her she is still going to be upset that her friends that are closest to her are getting pregnant and she isn't. Personally i wouldn't say anything until i started really showing, and then i would just tell her you didn't want to bring the subject up to her cause you thought it would be to sensitive and you didn't want to hurt her.
2007-08-13 02:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋