The thing is that my boyfriend asked me that we should slow down on the sexual side of our relationship. It’s not that he wants to stop fooling around completely. He just wants us not to fool around as often. He says that he wants to concentrate more on our emotional relationship. Do you really think this is the reason? Would any of you ask your girlfriend to slow down. Please be sensitive. Any thoughts?
2007-08-13 00:47:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
We've been daing for 6 months already... i love him very much. And he loves me. We know each other. So I don't see why he wants this
2007-08-13 04:52:00 · update #1
Sounds like you just ravish him whenever you get the chance. Maybe you should talk a bit and give sex a miss for a while. If you talk to him you may find you don't like him.
2007-08-13 00:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is around 19? (From prior question) Well if he is asking you to slow down I have no reasonable answer for you that you would want to hear. He "wants to concentrate more on our emotional relationship" he says, well that is just sick! 19 year old guys should be acting more like rabbits ... wanting it all the time. Sounds suspicious to me. Could he have another girlfriend ... or boyfriend?
Take this as a sign that you are at an age where you really should not be tied down to one person for an extended period of time. There are so many people out there to meet and explore. Have fun, meet new people and enjoy life.
That does not mean you have to be a sl-t, just be sane and have fun. You will never get these years back!
Be safe! Have fun!
2007-08-13 03:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by steveheremd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...here's where it's about being honest I guess. I have only told a chick I wanted to "slow down," one time in my life. Thats was because I thought all we had together was the physical, which was great but not fufilling enough without anything else. When we started to do things other than fool around, it conformed my suspicions, and we broke up.
So I'm not saying he's going to break up with you necessarily. I'm just saying he probably is worried that the physical is the only connection the two of you have.
2007-08-13 00:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Some dude 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a sign that he is interested in you as a person and just not someone to just fool around with.
Don't worry about it, the male sex drive is very strong and I don't think the amount that you fool around will drop off to much if he truely wants to be with you.
2007-08-13 00:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that he wants to get more emotional than physical. How old are you? If you are younger it would be better to get more into the emotional side of your relationship. Sex will only last so long. I think there would be lots of girls out there who would love to be in your shoes.
2007-08-13 01:52:13 · answer #5 · answered by darth72au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I kinda know what the guy means even though I am a girl. but if you are in a relationship and its all about sex then the relationship is doomed ( trust me i would know) if you want the relationship to work you shouldnt have sex every tym you meet. i used to be with someone and we had sex all the tym and we eventually got bored and it ended badly. now with my new bf im tryin not 2 be as "full on" so we will last. hope that helps
2007-08-13 00:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you guys. If your still young/underage then you should probably wait anyway. If your over 18 then ask yourself if he is talking with a feminine voice and well you get the picture.
Oh by the way if he goes to church then that might be the prob.
2007-08-13 00:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by B M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe depending on your age, he might be surprised at how sexually active you both are and he wants to take it all on board. Men, mentally ,whether we want to admit it or not, mature slower than women, and maybe he is catching up with his physical feelings.
Be assured that this guy is trying to decent with you and not trying to take you for granted.
My nephew approached me for advice on a similar matter, as he felt his father was not the one to approach for fear of taking the mickey out of him, and I said exactly the same.
Don't worry he genuinely seems to be trying to sort it out in his head.
As to whether I would, probably not but I am over 40 and well adjusted to my physical and mental well being
2007-08-13 04:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down no way a bloke don't normally ask his girlfriend to do that unless he has issues or just confused.
2007-08-13 01:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by Storyteller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, it's a younger guy thing, older guys just want to have sex all the time - depends how long you've been together really and how mature he is - it's an immature want.
2007-08-13 03:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by yerafudbaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋