my husband keeps bullying me and controling me we have been together for 6 years i asked him for a baby he said he wants a baby more then me and he said he doesent trust me he said if i want a baby i have to be his slave i have to do everythink for him im not allowed to ask him to help me clean up E-C-T and he has hit me so meny time .PLEASE HELP
2007-08-12 23:49:06 · 19 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know you are going to hear this -
Leave the B*st*rd.
Today.
Do not, I repeat, do NOT have a child with this scumbucket.
Your children deserve better genes than that, and you have a responsibility to them to give them the best father you can.
Go to your parents, tell them what has been happening and go live back home until you can get a job and get yourself on your own again. If you can't do that, then go to a woman's shelter, tell them what is up and they will help you.
2007-08-12 23:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by NinaFromNewEngland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is the matter with you! How could you be married to an idiot that's abusing you like that and then how could you even mention having a baby? If you have a baby with this creature, that will be CHILD ABUSE!
If you have the least little bit of intelligence, self respect, pride and dignity, you will file for divorce today! How could you let someone ruin your life like that? That's your life. How could you choose to stay married and have a baby with a jerk that should be arrested for domestic violence?
A husband who loves his wife will do anything to make her happy. So many woman don't know that that man is out there. Well, you'll never know if you stay married and keep that sick life your living.
All you should be doing right now is FILING FOR DIVORCE AND GETTING A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM! If he ever hits you again, you should just call the police and have him arrested.
Get going! You have some work to do if you want to enjoy life with a real man.
2007-08-13 00:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlie...Is it worth having this man's baby? Your child will see the way he treats you and will think that his behavior is justified and may act accordingly in their own future relationships. You don't want that. If he is abusive to you already, do you really want to bring a child into his home? Chances are, if he's beating you...he will beat the child too when it cries or what not.
It's scary to leave any marriage, but there are domestic violence shelters that can and will help you. Get out now for your own sake. Make copies of all of your important records (ie marriage license, deeds, insurance, birth certificates, SS numbers) Pack little items that you can sell if you need to and make sure to take all the jewelry and valuables from the house if you can. Open a bank account in your own name.Give an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra clothes and some money with a trusted friend or neighbor in case you have to leave quickly. Think about who your best resources are if you need to find shelter or money. Have change on hand to make emergency calls.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-08-13 02:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by chica_liss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that he is abusing you samatha. I would not bring a baby into this world with a husband/father like that. If he hits you he probably will hit the baby. I wouldn't take that risk. For you to tolerate that shows you yourself may need counseling. I would leave him if I had to find a Shelter to get away from him. I would do so before I become pregnant. If you don't have job skills, the shelter will help you with this, so that you can be self-supporting and start a new life. God bless!
2007-08-13 00:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that has a problem. Why haven't you left him? Why would you want to raise a child in a household with a man that is violent? Get out of there. Call the police, have him arrested the next time he hits you, and pack your bags. There are organizations that will help you get back on your feet, if you live in the U.S. Just ask the police and they will tell you what organization will provide shelter to a wife that has been abused.
2007-08-13 00:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the case then you need to get out of the relationship NOW and donot have a baby with this man!! If he is hitting you and treating you the way he does who is to say that he won't do the baby the same way?
2007-08-12 23:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even lab rats deserve better than what you are receiving. Don't live your life this way. There are many options for you, stand tall and take a big walk into a new life where no one hits, be littles or hurts you. You are worth so much more than that.
2007-08-13 00:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave b4 u bring a child into this relationship if he is assaulting u then it is not a good environment for a child or for u. have u told any1 u know what he is doing 2 u? u need to plan how to leave this guy carefully and report him. i truly wish u all the best
2007-08-13 01:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 years wow you should have left 5 years ago, get help there are organizations for abused woman find one and good luck. Do it today. I'm sure you can find one on Internet..
2007-08-12 23:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by larry B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help? You want me to come over and personally pack your things? Sheeesh get out of that relationship, move on...isn't 6 years long enough? Good Luck!
2007-08-12 23:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋