Ok so i have all my babies by c-section(lots of medical probs) which i hate because i can't see anything because of that sheet they put in front of your face. So with my first son things went awesome and better thani anticipated, then with my daughter the OBGYN says "oh no not another stillborn" i was in shock and balling my eyes out, she ended up being fine then with my last son my doctor commented on how big his penis was while i'm still in the OR. I am considering going with a new OBGYN for my last baby, but because my OB is the chief of obstetrics i'm not sure if i can. Would you do it and do you think female docs are more compassionate and more cosmetic?
You people here in the pregnancy forum are awesome and thanks a bunch for all your answers.
2007-08-12 23:46:14 · 7 answers · asked by Wishmaster 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
even with my last son he let 20 student docs come into the OR completely ruining the birth for me and my husband. All thes people talking and stuff
2007-08-12 23:57:34 · update #1
For your next baby, be upfront with your doctor and say "I would prefer that you and the staff keep the personal comments and things to a minimum in the OR. The last few times I have not been able to hear the first sounds that my baby makes, and I would like to have a better experience this time around." If he makes it seem that he can not respect your wishes, find a new doctor.
In my birth plan, I stated that in the case of a C-section, I wanted no personal chatter or other unnecessary conversation between staff at all, and they all respected it. All I heard was "scalpel" and "congratulations!"
Also, remember, you are the patient and they have a responsibility to respect your wishes, and if they are chattering in the OR, you are awake and have the right to ask them to please be quiet. Also, have your husband be an advocate for you, ask him to be sure to step up and ask them to keep quiet (nicely of course!).
As for students - state in your birth plan that you DO NOT want any unnecessary attendents at your birth - this is a right that you have as a patient and don't let anyone tell you different. Again, have your hubby step up and be your voice so you don't have to worry about it.
Good Luck and God bless you for having so many c-sections. I have had only one, but it is an experience I do NOT want to go through again!
2007-08-12 23:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by ShellyC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds to me like he completely forgets that your in ear-shot, not very compassionate, and is simply rude. You could try to find another doctor im sure he would take no offense and he in no way can stop you from doing this, or you could possibly tell him politely to keep comments on the hush-hush down low because its not something you want to hear. Other than that, he did sucessfully give your child his/her first breath with no major complications, he is atleast trustworthy.
But i dont like dealing with confrontations because it feels slightly awkard espeically with a doctor, if its not a big problem i would switch obgyns and find someone a bit more compassionate and well-mannered.
Just like normal people there are compassionate females and males, but i beleive women can be more sympathetic than the average man because they've probably been through what you have. But male or female obgyn i would think all of them would have the decency to keep nasty comments to themselves.
Congrats and good luck with your pregnancy! Hope everything goes well.
2007-08-13 06:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you can see another doctor and I'm sure there's a different hospital you can go to too, so you know you won't see your current doctor. But there's nothing wrong with changing doctors. My gyno office has 4 doctors, and 2 midwifes. Well my friend was just pregnant and I met the new doc they bought on and I hate her. I couldn't stand the comments she made to my friend during her pregnancy. {I went to every doc appt with her} Now I'm pregnant again and I told my usual doc {see with my doc when pregnant you see all the docs} that I don't want her to touch me and if I go into labor I will hold my legs close if she's there till another doc came in. He took my concerns and promised me I would never have to see her. But most docs do understand about wanting or not wanting a certain doc. But I would change docs because your's sounds like the one I don't want to see. Good luck.
2007-08-13 06:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by mommy23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do think females are more sympathetic and you should be able to change OBGYN's and not be obliged to stay with one you are unhappy with just because of his title. Go with your gut instinct and change docs. I would hate to have to go through 4 difficult deliveries with a crappy insensitive doctor at the helm (so to speak!!)
2007-08-13 06:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldve filed a complaint!!!!! Those are the memories you will have for the rest of your life. change drs girl and when they ask why, tell them exactly what you told us. and if they try to pull that 20 student drs BS again you tell them you dont want them in there, its your right as a patient!! if there is no need for them in there then they need to stay the heck out!
2007-08-13 07:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by sugarplumfaerie52686 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change. Male or female doesn't matter. what you need to do is find a doc who will want to make your birth just as special as youdo.
2007-08-13 07:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly change docs. He just seems weird.
2007-08-13 06:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋