Would you trust your husband or partner if they delibrately let u see their emails to other women?

Question

Just would like to know if you would trust your husband or partner if they delibrately leave their emails to and fro other women for you to see. My husband chats with other women online which I dont mind too much however lately he has been recieving emails from women informing him where and when the hotels rooms are booked for. he delibtaely left this email on screen just before I sat down to check my emails. He never tells me that loves me however he has the morals to tell other women how he is going to make love to them. Sadly one of them was a canadian and she invited him over to canada he declined by telling her that his parents were disable and he unfortunately cannot leave them alone to go to her and he kindly sent him £6000 for him to get a minder for his parents so they were not alone. I feel betrayed, although I am the one who looks after our children, pay all the bills work from 9-9 on some days to make ends meet. He is a good father that is the only thing that helps.

Answer 1

its quite clear, that you 2 have communication problems. he i am certain is trying to reach you by asking you to talk to him, and you no doubt are still talking the way you feel is right. if he has gone as far, then clearly his communication needs are not being met. clearly this man is quite clever wanting you to find all these emails. he wants you to know that he is attractive to other women, he can get other women, and that if he is still around, that is because he wants to be. use this opportunity to find out what he is looking for, if you love him, and want to keep him then he needs to give up these online liasons, and you need to ensure you give his intellectual needs the boost they need. all is not lost, unless you want him to get lost. good luck darling, men are fickle creatures at best, and this one is about to walk out of your life. remember let him go if he has cheated on you. and if he has not then work it out, as far as this goes, i think this is a game for him being online talking to women, it pleases some thing he is missing out of the marraige. can you figure it out? lastly, the kids need a good father, and you should have a good husband. maybe he doesnt tell you he loves you, since maybe you dont tell him it. sorry if i am being too hard on your darling, but remember this, if he has not cheated on you, and you have not done anything about it, then he will at some point. then it will all be lose. good luck

Answer 2

No! Never! Not a chance! Is there any other way I could say this? Your husband's relationship with this woman is waaaaaaay out of line. First, he's spending time with her that belongs with you. Second, he is too closely involved in situations that are far too intimate for a married man - being present at the birth of another woman's child is a bonding experience and is about as emotionally intimate as you can get. She is"choosing" your husband for a reason - maybe they have already had an affair (Could that child be his?? Is that why the "boyfriend" left, if her ever existed?) Even if nothing has happened between them yet, she seems to have plans for their future that will not include you. And why do they want you not to contact her? Something is VERY WRONG here. You need to tell him that you are very uncomfortable & unhappy about this relationship. Let him know that you & your kids need him around much more. Suggest that she should have one of her relatives or a female friend attend her birth. Watch his reactions carefully - you should know him well enough to tell how he really feels. The only question left is are you better off with him or without him? Are you willing to face the possibility he will choose her ( which he seems about to do anyway)? Maybe you should talk your options through with a counselor and a lawyer to be sure you are protected no matter what his response. You should also be tested for STD's - there is a very good possibility that he has been very intimate with this woman & I think you already suspect that though you're reluctant to face it.

Answer 3

being a good father is not enough. talk to him about these women he's being emailing with and remind him of his duty as a husband and a father. Ask him straight if he loves you or not. Whatever the answer will be you'll at least know what to do from there on. Don't just sit there and watch as he plays with other women's feeling as well as with yours. Stand up for yourself and have a firm talk with him. Good luck

Answer 4

i am sorry but you need to walk away now. he is leaving this open so you can see on purpose and he wants you to be the one to walk away so all the blame is on you. and you know what i dont think you should care about that. u are not getting the same feelings back that you give him and it is not fair. i dont understand how you can deal with this. getting hurt is not the answer, you deserve better and trust me there are plenty guys out there that will treat u 10 times better.... good luck and dont get hurt anymore.

Answer 5

what's he supposed to do while your'e working 9-9, and concentrating so hard on the kids and the home. He's only human surely, when was he last time you told him you love him, when was the last time you spent quality time together? He isn't being fair, but you must be able to understand his lonliness and frustration. He hasn't gone, he hasn't touched anyone, are you going to force his hand or work for your relationship? I see this as your chance to make a choice.....

Answer 6

He is a good father...what about a good husband..sorry ... you do not mean much to him if he is talking to other women. not right...not good...He can be a father anywhere...he does not have to live with you. There are plenty men out there that would love to have a women like you.

Answer 7

I think maybe your husband want u to know his unsatisfaction and his charming for other women.Maybe you care your children and work much more than your husband.Why not tell him your love to him,you want to make love to him?If he didn't make love with other women,it maybe means he still loves u and is loyal.Pls give you a day to stay with him,tell him u need him.I think everything will be better.

Answer 8

For me he is trust worthy,as many people use the Internet for all types of personal reasons,most just to communicate and be a little helpful to others and them selves.Why not speak to him, hopefully this will help your stress?

Answer 9

You might be a good mother in most ways, but you are certainly teaching your children wrong by allowing your husband to treat you with disrespect. That is not very smart. Think about what they are learning by their father's example. That is not very healthy. You are teaching them that it is not only okay to disrespect their spouse, but to allow their spouse to disrespect them.

Answer 10

He is trying to tell you something ,Like he is looking for someone else.Married men should not be talking to woman on the net ,there's a lot of trouble there.