This is what happened to my boyfriend and I last week:
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AT the time I was angry and now I am hurting all over...I just wish I was dead. I loved him so much. Can I ever change him? I want to move on but I am feeling so weak. What can I do? Please help..
2007-08-12 23:08:11 · 15 answers · asked by Fluffy ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh sweetie,it does get so much easier,day by day. Any man who tries to change you before you are even married really has serious issues. Being dead won't solve your pain.You must settle all problems on earth before moving on to wherever you believe! You must give it time..It has only been a week. No, you will never,ever change him.. I know for a fact. I have been married 25 years and there are still things that I would love to change.. But,you know what? Then he wouldn't be the man I married. It sounds like he is ashamed of you.Or is more worried about his parents than you... Priorities are mixed up. Be with friends as much as possible. Get away from computers,it you chatted with him a lot. Stay the night with a girlfriend for some "girl" time.. Your young ,beautiful, and one day a man will come along and love you for everything you stand for,what you wear,how you comb you hair.
Please before you do anything drastic,you owe it to yourself to give it time. Maybe 1,2,3 months.. You will look back and say to yourself,what did I ever really see in him? What was I thinking... Stay with positive people,get out have fun...Good luck..Just remember this is only temporary
2007-08-12 23:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion, I think that he is right about using foul language in front of his parents. You should always act respectful when talking to your boyfriend's parents. Why do you have to tell his parents that you don't believe in God? That should be your private business anyway. By the way, why did you use the expression OMG if you don't believe in God? You are a very confused person. You really need to rethink how you want people to feel about you. You can't say one thing and do another, then expect people to take you seriously!
2007-08-12 23:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey ...I understand you, but if he won't make an effort and change for you it's just not worth it. I know it hurts and you wish things would be different but time heals all wounds, trust me. you probably heard it a million times, but there will be over guys, honest. One that will love you for who you are and won't care what his parents think about you. That's the kind of guy you need, the one who would put you before his parents.
So try not to hurt so much and go out more, to get your mind of him. Make sure to tell yourself every day: I can do better! I don't need him! okay?
good luck on finding mister right. I'll be holding my fingers crossed for you ;)
2007-08-12 23:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by ibi_ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to change him, you shouldn't be with him. You are doing the same thing he is doing. You want him to change and he doesn't want you to act a certain way in front of his family.
Believe it or not we all need to watch ourselves in front of significant others family members. It's a fact of life.
You are too young to grasp this concept but it's a valuable lesson to learn.
If you love someone you don't try to change them. I don't think he's trying to change you, he just wants you to watch yourself and not give the wrong impression to his family. .
You on the other blatantly asked if you can ever change him.
My advice is grow up a little before you get into a serious relationship.
2007-08-12 23:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl R U out of YDM, I know you did not just say you wish you were dead. What ITH are you thinking. No you are never going to change a man or anyone from being who they are. Quit trying to mold this man into whom you want him to be. He was that way all along, you just ignored the signs.
To answer your question you need to get the blank out of that relationship. It is not healthy at all.
2007-08-12 23:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he's trying to change you, it sounds like he's trying to shield both of you from his uptight, judgmental parents. If he "stands up for you" to them, then what is that going to do to his relationship with them? Is he relying on them for any sort of financial support, like tuition, insurance, or car payments? I don't have the full story, but it really sounds like he's trying to keep his parents off his back where you're concerned, and you should appreciate that he thinks you're worth the effort to keep around even if his family wouldn't accept you.
2007-08-12 23:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by djnightgaunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 02:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that you can change is yourself. Unless he wants to change, it's not going to happen. This will cause you more sadness and frustration and hurt.
Confide in your friends, they can help you through this difficult time. Make your decision and stick by it. You can do it. Good luck!
2007-08-12 23:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It shows that he has a deep respect for his parents, and he doesn't want them to get offended by them or by you.
You can't change that... either walk away or try to accept the fact that he really loves his parents and trully respects them.
Just remember that he doesn't want his parents to get offended and end up denying your relationship
He wants them to accept you
2007-08-12 23:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by Marcio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are very confused over this guy. You two need to sit down and have a long talk and see if you can work things out before this relationship goes any further.
Good luck and my best to you and your relationship!
2007-08-12 23:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by fishineasy™ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋