how do i get him to notice?

Question

my first question here so be nice ;) -

well basically im a little shy and i know i dont need to be so im sort of looking for a different way since i dont want to seem so demanding again :\. ive been married since 03 to a wonderful man who i love dearly and in that same year we had a child. well for a while now hes been playing this online game at night basically the whole night. i dont know if he flirting with other woman or not, he laughs it off and cant believe that i might be worried but he says that he does talk to some woman while playing the game but its not like that. he usually ends up going to bed around the time im getting up. i made him quit playing these games while he was in college because he wasnt studying and was just playing these stupid games and i think he holds that against me. i want him to sleep with me when i sleep, is that too much to ask? i have trouble sleeping if hes not there :\. if i get him into bed with sex he just gets up once its over and goes online

any ideas on how i get him into bed with me for the full night? the best thing to do is to just tell him? or what? i really love him i want to sleep in the same bed with him, he does have a job and supports us fine but he sleeps when im awake.

his schedule is he plays online from about 10 or 11 till 5 or so then he sleeps for a few hours, goes to work comes home, eats, sleeps some more. he doesnt spend anytime with me or our daughter unless its something special or scheduled in advance. i know hes atleast talking with other women online because he talks about sex but its about our sex not sex with them when i looked over his shoulder, he said dont worry about it but i just want to stop being addicted to online gaming and come to bed once in a while :|

Answer 1

here is what I think...you don't know who he's talking to while you are asleep...or what they are talking about...and even if it is not about sex w/ them, he's still talking to other ladies when he should be paying attention to you and your daughter! So, this is cheating...=(...plus, these ladies see how he is online alot...so, they think they can win him over...why give them the opportunity to try? Give him an ultimatum...it's you and your daughter, or these "overly friendly chats w/ them"...he should be talking to you for hours, not them...it's an addiction that has to stop, game or not, this is your heart he is messing with!

Answer 2

how can he have a job and support you if he's on line when your sleeping and goes to bed when you wake up so he can sleep? you sound a little more confused then you should be from personal experience when my ex husband stayed up all night after a long day at work and he was on line while I slept its a clear sign theres another woman I dont know if this is the case in your marriage you said he comes to bed gives you sex then gets up and returns to the game ? something is obviously motivating him to not be a normal male and sleep straight after sex you deserve better then this and covering for him to make yourself feel better will come back to bite you on the rear end when it comes crashing down .....

your his wife you shouldnt have to demand sex simple as that , you dont know if he's flirting on line while he plays the game ? come on the thought wouldnt be there unless you knew something .....

you deserve better and you know it good luck but seems to me your minds already decided

Answer 3

a lot of on line games have chat areas at the bottom but,1.- he's addicted to the game, 2. it's okay to chat but not about sex, with other women. i'd have it out with him. it has nothing to do with being demanding, it's just what's right. he's to wrapped up in what he's doing to see what's going wrong.

Answer 4

Well unfortunately he's addicted to this game. Do you visit each others family.Do you try to get him and you out together with the baby.Would it be possible to play this game together