I just need to vent........?

Question

Here it is 2:00am and I cant sleep because I am worrying about my stupid job that I absolutely hate, I have worked at this job for 4 years,(electrical work), other than this job I have around 9 years of electrical experience, which is most of my adult life (I am 29), so basicly it is the only trade I know, so I cant just go out and find a job doing something I might like to do because I have become used to the amount of income I bring in which isnt a huge amount ($50,000 a year) but it is enough that I cant just go out and match it, I cant stand knowing that I have to do this for the rest of my life, for the most part I feel like the company I work for has made me feel this way,(with their constant lies, and poor management), but at this point I feel like I dont even want to do this anymore, yet I cant make myself simply find another job, because I dont like change, yet I know I need to change something, I am sitting here thinking of either just quitting at 7:00am (in 5 hours or so) or

atleast put my 2 weeks notice in, yet I do not have another job lined out right now, it would be so irresponsible ( I have 2 kids and a wife to support), but I cant fathom the thought of finishing out the week, I know I just need to grow some balls and find a job, and just quit, I dont know what my hang up is, I am just worrying about stupid stuff right now, I should just go get another job and live my blue collar life right?, man that is a tough pill to swallow, I guess I just need to grow up, I really just wanted to put what I was thinking into words.

Answer 1

I am also 29 (no wife or kids), and have quit two jobs in my adult life - both times with nothing lined up. I quit the last job after almost being hit by a city bus on my walk home...afterwards I started thinking about "what if" and the biggest regret I would have had was not quitting the job before I died.

If your wife really loves you (and is gainfully employed or employable) she would care that your job brings you great sorrow and would support whatever decision you make. Kids are fickle and might at first give you a hard time because you're not buying them toys (you know, the ones they want until they get them and couldn't be less interested?), but 20 years from now they would probably admire their dad for taking a risk and doing something that most people don't have the guts to do - face the unknown. It sounds like you are dedicated enough that you could find a talent or trade in life that brings you some happiness and a comparable wage, so go out and find it.

Answer 2

you've answered your own question. You have a wife and 2 kids and change is scary.......I would say you have choices. You can just quit and go job hunting. You can give notice, then quit. But giving notice will only drag the misery of being there, but you should want to leave under good circumstances in case you have to have a reference. But, the minute you do quit, it will seem like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, but that will last till the "no job" reality kicks in, a few hours after pure joy...guess you could go to your boss and just tell him, you just can't stand the pressure anymore......
With all your experience, why don't you start your own business???.....I guarantee you can probably beat your companies rates by a bit and pick up your own accounts!!
You need liability insurance for sure, that could be pretty expensive, but worth a shot to try at least.....Turn in the fancy car and get you a van, go to a sign place and get your name and phone # on it, and go for it! If that is an option......
I know what you mean when miserable at a job, but ya' gotta take the bull by the horns, and just do it.......best of luck to ya'...

Answer 3

I am 36, I have been in a similar work atmosphere where people were constantly liing, and we didn't have management we had tyrants for leaders. Have you ever considered that it may be you don't like the atmosphere you are in, and not necessarily the work itself? I wouldn't quit outright. I would take some vacation time and use it to seek another job in the same field. You are obviously good at what you do. Before you do anything drastic, I would attempt the same type of work under different employers. This may resolve the problem and it may give you time to think about what you really want to do with yourself without tyrants breathing down your neck and clouding your thinking processes. When you don't like the people you work for you begin to hate the work. I know this from personal experience. I forgot to add that money isn't as important as your mental well being and that sometimes it is necessary to take a pay cut in order to preserve who you are. I went from making 36,000 a year to making 10,000. I have never regreted it, but I wish I would have done it sooner. ;-)

Answer 4

Been there done that bem careful all work is dangerous so keep your mind on the job Ill pray for you that you get an answer to your problem cheers.

Answer 5

what you need to do is to stick with your job for the moment. meanwhile, figure out what you would REALLY like to do in your life, what job you'd like to have and take the appropriate actions. (go to some courses, read about it, get informed, etc.) after that you can search for your dreamjob. when you found it, you can quit your old place.

Answer 6

Guess it's either a new job of the same nature somewhere else ,or you'll just have to love your present job.That's about it.