What would make you get a divorce?

Question

Remember marriage is through better or worst so your answer should be a good one

Answer 1

adultry, verbal and/or physical abuse

Answer 2

I would get a divorce if my husband or I live unhappy with each other.

People mentally grow and sometimes they grow into different directions. That is normal and does not have to be a bad thing. In my opinion a main reason for divorces is if one or both persons in a relationship become too tired or too lazy to "work on a good relationship". People often forget that a relationship or marriage does not mean that from now on you don't have to deal with problems no more regarding your partner. Instead it is a commitment trying to solve and deal with problems together as a team. Unfortunately many people just get too tired or lazy and then at some point it is better to just go separate ways.

Another good reason for a divorce is: emotional or physical abuse, drug abuse, anything that makes one of the partners deeply unhappy...you gotta take care of your own needs and the needs of your partner, if you can't do that or if your partner is not willing to do so then you need to move on for your own sake.

Answer 3

Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness or in health to death do us part. But, adultery takes marriage to the death do us part. The decision to remain in the marriage after it has been killed by adultery is left to the surviving victim, and children are not an excuse to remain. The perpetrator usually is arrogant and promiscuous inflicting a life of, "Russian Roulette" with every time there is sexual communication with the unaware partner. Then there is confusion, lack of trust, anger etc. once what is hidden in the dark comes to light. Even with the strength of Goliath the failing pulse of the marriage could stop beating, and its only through strong communication, remorse, and developing understanding with repentance can there be a revival. Truly only when the perpetrator really learns what the true meaning of love is, selfless, compassionate, unconditional, enjoying, growing, nurturing, comfortable, blessing, thanking, appreciating, celebrating, building,uniting, etc. with the permission of the victim the marriage can survive. Adultery is the one thing that will bring to death do us part into a marriage for better or for worse, burying it with a divorce!

Answer 4

Divorce requires serious thought. Now if a person does not want the person they are with any longer, then they will come up with any excuse and divorce them. People don't take marriage as seriously as they used to. Remember this, What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace and God Bless.

Answer 5

Being unhappy for years and trying to get my husband to go to counseling. When he refuses to go, I go anyway by myself. I try all the things suggested with no response. Decide it's time to be happy and move on.
Marry again and am treated very badly. My children from first marriage are treated badly too.
These both really happened. I think I could forgive my husband for an affair, but not for mistreating me or my children.
I would divorce any man who sexually or physically abused a child. It's absolutely unforgiveable. I couldn't live with a monster.

Answer 6

Through better or worst to what extent ... there are a lot of phrases used everywhere and everyday.

When the problems the spouses have are affecting the children negatively and marriage counseling wasn't a 2 person effort... that did it for me.

Life is short. How unhappy should people be?

Answer 7

The basis of all good marriages is TRUST, LOVE, FIDELITY and RESPECT and of course, SEX. (Not necessarily in that order. If one of these factor's are violated then it will start the walls crumbling. The most common being cheating. You trust your mate to be faithful. When they cheat it becomes an issue of disrespect, lack of trust and the visions of love begin to fade.
When you cheat you strip away the foundation of your relationship leaving the other partner scarred and wondering if they will ever beable to repair the damage you have done mentally. Yes there are reasons to divorce. Physical abuse is the top of the heap..then comes infidelity. Last but not least is the lack of caring and love. People can fall out of love as easily as they fall in love but there are always circumstances that lead to that end.

Answer 8

I can think of no reason that I would leave my wife. If she was unfaithful to me I would be devastated but I think we could get passed it provided that she could make me believe that it was a one time thing and that she felt it was a mistake... If she cheated again I would end it. I have enough respect for myself to not allow myself to be used...You have to remember this though, vows are sacred and to be taken seriously, they are not an excuse for one person to use to get away with transgressions. Even in the Catholic church it is possible to have a marriage annulled if that case can be made that someone had no intention of honoring the vows... I have read cases where marriages that were 10 or 15 years in length and were still granted an annulment.... for better or for worse does not mean that your spouse has to forgive you for whatever you do.

Answer 9

If the relationship is abusive then I think it should be ended. Most people would know this before getting married though I believe. Otherwise, I would like to think I would not get divorced for any reason, because if you have an open honest relationship with your spouse, you should be able to curtail any of those reasons we might be inclined to give that warrant a divorce.

Answer 10

Ironically, I am in the process of getting a divorce right now. My wife has been diagnosed by a psychiatrist as bipolar and although I've done everything I can to stay in the marriage (we have kids) she wants me out. I am blamed for everything; never cheated, not a flirt, attentive, keep a steady admirable job. But nothing is good enough.

It wasn't this way in the beginning of our relationship, but it has eroded to this point over time.

Answer 11

Funny you should ask this question. I am in the process now. I was diagnosed w/ a permanent disability that my husband makes light of, while he was away in school and could only visit 1-3 times a month he very rarely had sex / made love to me. When he was home permanently he told me that we would have sex when he wanted to and still I got NONE. When I cried out for help to him that I was unhappy, he stood by and did nothing. Then he took over the family bills while I worked 14 hours a day and got us behind 4 months on our mortgage- while he was telling me that everything was ok when I asked. I'm cutting my loses and getting out before worse has me and my kids living in my car.