The pain isn't really pain at all. It is more of a soreness inside of me. During sex, I can feel him hit the cervix walls constantly and it hurts a bit. Then after, it is sort of sore. Would I have to get used to it? or is it something that I would have to watch out for?
ps.. lube does nothing! although it works wonders...
2007-08-12 19:27:57 · 10 answers · asked by crazy mary 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i enjoy the sex thoroughly and no matter what position, i can still feel him hitting the cervix walls. and he knows about it but we both enjoy it very much. i was just wondering if there is any hazards to it and if there are any techniques/medication (for me) to relieve it?
2007-08-12 19:44:27 · update #1
I know how you feel on this.It was to the point where it did not feel good.I am no longer with him,not because of that.
2007-08-12 19:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
This is because of the size and hurry. To avoid the hurt which may be harmful in long run Pl. try Woman on top position.
Woman on top puts you in control of the situation. The woman is in a position to engulf the penis/dildo at her own rate of comfort. Of course the other person has some control of the situation too because they are constantly talking/sharing feelings throughout this whole experience. In this position, the person on bottom should tilt her or his hips, back flat on the ground. This allows for an angle that often many women enjoy. In this position, the person on top often lies atop with her legs stretched out or bent. Sometimes, she may sit straight up and slide up and down. Many women report that they really like this position because of the added genital stimulation (the vulva rubs up against the person on bottom's pelvic bone). In addition, men (again, if they are coordinated) can stimulate their partner's vulva (and/or breasts and/or other body parts) with their hands or women could masturbate themselves while having intercourse. Many people on bottom find this particularly pleasurable because of the added visual stimulation of seeing her breast. For a woman who appears self-conscious, I recommend telling the woman how much you are enjoying the way she moves, and how good it feels. This may help you relax. As she relaxes, she may start to enjoy herself more. Actually, this tip goes to all people. Positive reinforcement of pleasurable sensations/movements is a good way to encourage your partner to continue whatever she/he is doing.
2007-08-12 20:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, i can feel your pain on this.. lol.. when me and my boyfriend first got together i experienced ALOT of soreness (he is very large as well) we just had to keep trying different positions until we found one that didnt hurt so much for me, one where i seemed to "open" up more for him.. eventually my vagina seemed to get used to him, as now it no longer hurts this took a few months tho
good luck
2007-08-12 19:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are more than willing to save their women from any pain in the sex dept. Just ask him not to push so hard, that it hurts you. If he loves you he will understand and be more gentle.
2007-08-12 19:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by paisley101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you.Ask him to use leather rings,which can reduce the effective length.These are like washers and by using a number of them one can adjust the permissible length to any limit.
2007-08-12 19:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to know about your discomfort and then he will be more aware of how he needs to move. If he already knows about your discomfort, then you need to say something about it when it happens and hopefully he will be more careful. Communication is very important between two people and don't assume that he already knows and he should be careful.
You need to speak up and remind......there is nothing wrong with that...
2007-08-12 19:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweet Candy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More of lubrication and a bit easy on the punch should help.
2007-08-12 19:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could take control (woman on top) so you can regulate the depth and tempo of the thrusts. you could also tell your guy to slow down or be gentler in thrusting
2007-08-12 19:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by sigmund fudd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to not go so far in and do it softer because it hurts, he'll understand. =D go see your doc. if it gets worse.
2007-08-12 19:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to take it nice and easy...and uh....try to do less sex and more foreplay....to rest your muscles!
2007-08-12 19:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by kiki<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋