Unwanted Teenage Pregnances?

Question

It's funny how everyone on here thinks it's against the law to offer a home for a baby when a teenager is hiding her pregnancy from her family and friends in order to dispose of said baby in a trash can or to smother it to death. It shows the real hypocrisy of this nation. We advocate abandoning the baby at a hospital or a fire station, but when a loving person comes forward and offers to provide a loving home we in mass jump down their throats and comdemn them as a criminal. Talk about hyprocrisy. Doesn't a mother of an unborn child have the right to chose who becomes the parent of her baby or do we live in such a fascist world that we as a government entity think we know better than the parent who has carried said infant for nine months. As usual the people on this forum show their ignorance and government biases. As a parent myself I would prefer to know who is raising my child and know that that home is not only a loving and nuturing home but will provide the best care.

To believe a government organization can provide the best possible home for a newborn goes against statitics. Moreover the government has shown how they have scarred and damaged the children they shuffle from foster home to foster home. While their are good foster parents, there are those who are simply in it for the government subsidies. I think a woman should have the right to decide who raises her child and she should be able to check on her child and see exactly how well adjusted that child has become. Money changes hand should have nothing to do with the welfare of a child. The only commodity in question should be love. To those of you who call this criminal, I ask you to search what is left of your non-government corrupted mind and see if you can come up with a better solution. I was a foster parent and I know the abuses suffered by foster children as related to me by numerous social workers.

The government may have good intentions but those intentions are lost in a buracreacy run by people who are overworked and gladly turn over the days workload to an unworthy parent in the attempt to end their strenous day and go home to their own families. The social service system in this country is a joke. Parental choses should be made on love not money. A parent does not have to be a millionaire to raise a successful, intelligent child. They simply have to care and give the love and support the child needs as it grows. According to government adoption records over 80% of the parents in this country should not be reproducing.

Yes, and foster parents lead to children with the inability to attach to a parent on a psychological level that leads to a healthy adult. Did you know the majority of foster babies spend at least the first 6 months in the system forming attachments to people they will never see again. What are the long term effects of this stripping away of the most permanent attachment a child can make? We don't know. But we sit back and continue to trust our government to sort out the attachment disorders of the future. No wonder we have a prevalence of children with detachment disorders and social identity crisis. Not to mention autism.

NO ONE ON THIS WEBSITE OFFERED TO BUY A BABY!!! THE OFFER WAS MADE TO PROVIDE A HOME FOR AN UNWANTED CHILD. THERE WAS NO COMPENSATION HINTED AT OR OFFERED AND NEVER WOULD BE!!! A WOMAN WHO SELLS HER CHILD IS WORSE THAN A COMMON HOOKER ON THE STREET!!

Most States do not give a mother the right to choose the parent she wants to raise her child that is determined by the State and the State Adoptive Agencies. Mother's who wish to give their child to a loving parent are null and void of that right. It is the States right to decide who raises your child if you have no relatives that step up and agree to raise the child and even then the State makes the family jump though hoops and performs home studies before they allow a child to go to the parents of the birth mothers choice, providing of course the prospective parents are relatives

I worked for the state and I think it is an organization with less respect for the adoptive infant/child than covering their own backsides.

No there shouldn't be so many teen pregnancies but their shouldn't be so many teen pregnancies that end in the innocent life of an infant being killed. A teenager should have the right to choose who raised her child not just a Fire Station, Hospital, Church, or any other organization that says drop it at the door and we'll do the best we can.

You are all wrong and oversimplyfying a situation you have no knowledge of except what you hear on Television.

I give you an F- for not having a clue.

Beckers you are the worst of all.

Mostly because you think you know what you're talking about but you definitely have no clue and are spouting the same 'ole crap the government been dishing out for years.

P.S. You don't need to be a rich parent to be a good parent and that's all private adoption fosters. How many rich parents turn their children into non-functioning retards with no future other than living off daddy's money.

Answer 1

A mother can certainly chose who will raise her baby, but you just can't hand a baby over without going through the legal system. There has to be a record of birth and legal adoption proceedings. If babies were just handed over without doing this, there would be a high risk of baby selling, coercing a teenager to give up a baby through pressure or threats of abuse, baby "buying" which takes advantage of poor teenage moms who think they can get rich or support drug habits by giving birth for someone else (breeders for money), and giving babies over to people who may have a history that would endanger them, such as child molesters or abusers . You may very well be a good and loving parent, but don't think for one minute that the rest of the world wouldn't have an ulterior motive for taking someone else's baby without going through the "system."
Leaving a baby at a fire station or hospital is a viable option rather than killing a newborn. These babies have a better chance at life being adopted by a qualified family or even in foster care than just handing them over to people who may not have the baby's best interest at heart.
You sound upset as if you know of a personal experience that didn't seem right. But you really have to look at the big picture. More babies would be hurt if these regulations didn't exist.

Answer 2

Teen parents (both parents) do have the right to choose where their baby goes and when going through a lawyer a family can adopt as long as they have the homevisit done. Plenty of people around here advertise wanting a child to adopt and there are tons of teens looking for good homes for their babies. Of course a lot of teen pregnancies are accidental, they do it on purpose for various reasons. But no it isn't illegal to offer a home to a child if you know the child will need a home. It is however illegal to offer to basically buy a child from someone and nobody should force anyone to give their child up. Sometime people see a teenager pregnant and think that the baby would be better off with an older couple so they push and push to try to get the teen to give them the baby, well in that case maybe the teen really wants that baby and will do ok with the baby. You just have to take it case by case and when ever anyone wants to adopt they should always go through a lawyer to make everything legal.

Answer 3

Ok, your looking at one side... which I see no problems with. But you have yet to evaluate the other side. Some parents that are adopting would choose for the biological mother not to know them and not to be involved for fear that the mother may come back in the future and ruin their new family. And as you may be a parent that knows best where you would like to place your child, there are several teenage mothers out there that don't. Probably more out there that don't than that do. With the amount of childcare fraud and adoption fraud just to gain government money for taking care of these so called unwanted babies.... I am happy that there is a team of people that are trying to find the actual loving parents and getting rid of the ones that don't care for the child. And I can't imagine that there is a person on this board that doesn't care about the babies that are being killed and smothered from unwanting mothers... so please don't go around accusing.

Answer 4

Well, if a girl is set on hiding her pregnancy, she has to be able to leave the baby somewhere safe. A friend of mine has a foster home for newborns-age 3, and she is in the process of trying to adopt an infant in her care right now. Not all foster homes are bad, and at least there is a place for these children to live until an adoptive family can be found.

Answer 5

Who are you talking about? Why wouldn't a parent have the right to give guardianship of her child to another, unless perhaps there was something wrong with the person she wanted to have the child?

Answer 6

i'd rather see a baby havin a happy and better chance at life than either dead, not loved or in a bad parental situation

Answer 7

True, still. There shouldn't be teen pregancies anyway. Kids these days are unmonitered now, and unguided. Tsk.

Answer 8

Isn't that where private adoptions filter in?

Answer 9

i didnt even get half way through. to much to read