just wanted to see what people have to say on the subject. she cheated w/ me, not on me. she says its becuz she gets treated like dirt. thoughts?
2007-08-12 19:16:02 · 19 answers · asked by wizzpack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My ex cheated on me...first time she said "it will never happen again"
Next time I found out about her cheating was when she came home 8 years later and said she wanted a divorce...found out at that time that she had cheated several times during the marriage...
She told the guy that I was beating her (never raised a hand to her), that I was an alcoholic (I don't drink), and that I was cheating on her (never once unfaithful - in my whole life)
Heard from her sister that within the first year of being married to the guy she cheated with - that she got caught cheating on him...
Be wary...I firmly believe "once a cheater, always a cheater".
2007-08-12 19:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is being treated like dirt she should just leave you ...then it would not be cheating ..She will be free. The relationship she has will probably flourish then b/c its what she wants . If she is a good girl it doesn't mean once a cheater always a cheater ...Cheating happens b/c the relationship is not stable... in some area... The goal in any relationship is to achieve closeness ...enough to talk about these things so cheating doesn't happen.....
2007-08-12 19:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying "once a cheat always a cheat " is often used but the truth of the matter is its not a disease , it can be controlled and 99% of cheaters cheat because they feel they are missing something in their life be it effection from their spouse or seeing their dream partner in the perfect glowing light of what they wish their own spouse was and forgetting why they fell in love with their spouse in the 1st place if they bothered to pay attention they might realise the farce they are seeing in their new lover is what their new lover wants them to see them as I mean come on your not that perfect and you know it and the act cant go on for ever and when the flaws come out the cheating spouse will see it and feel foolish for thinking the dream was real (this comment is not aimed at you its actually aimed at a wider audience ) another saying the "grass is greener on the other side"
the truth is the grass is NOT greener on the other side and when you cheat and when it ends in divorce and re-marriage to the person you cheated with usually your taking the problems from your 1st marriage into your 2nd marriage because you didnt resolve your issues in the 1st marriage .....
wether they will cheat the rest of their lives depends on them and how secure within themself they are hope this helped and didnt confuse you to much good luck .....
2007-08-12 21:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person is being treated badly the just want to feel like someone loves them..so as long as you treat her right she will not have a reason to..i know i've been there..been with the man i cheated with for 4 years and never cheated on him
2007-08-12 20:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by terrysgirl0206 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gets treated like dirt by who? Her husband? So she cheats with you? Not only does she have bad judgment, she makes horrible choices, and is a lying, cheating, backstabbing ho. If her husband is treating her like dirt, she should get a divorce, or get marriage counseling, not seek solace in the arms of another man.
He treats her like dirt because she acts like dirt. If cheating is the only solution she can come up with when things get rough in her marriage, I'd say that she isn't the kind of woman you should be wasting your time on. If her judgment and choices are as bad in other areas as they are in the "choosing to cheat" area, it's not surprising that her husband treats her bad. You would be in for nothing but frustration and pain if you continue being with her.
2007-08-12 19:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've known people who's attitude is like, "why cheat if you're in a relationship...just break up with the person." then, i've known people who cheat when the going gets tough. so, which do you think she is? sure, she's sorry now, but how sorry was she when she was getting her @ss pounded by some other guy? you know...i didn't even read the whole question till now...and as i said...the going got tough so she started cheating. but, if you're asking, i'm assuming that you're considering being with her...don't do it. that would be way too cocky...if she'll cheat on her man, she'll cheat on you as soon as the relationship hits a down. cuz we all know relationships have their ups and downs.
2007-08-12 19:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she gets treated like dirt in the relationship she is in more then likely she is going to venture out and cheat again! - Maybe if she was in a good and healthy relationship she would not treat! - Maybe she should get rid of the loser!
2007-08-12 19:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She gets treated like dirt because she allows herself to be. And then she treats her other guys like dirt. And you'll be next in line. She's not going to be faithful until gets her issues straightened out, and that doesn't sound like it's going to be soon, because she's blaming her cheating on other people, not herself.
2007-08-12 19:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, it's a pattern. And often the exuse of being treated badly is a part of that pattern. Even though she, or he for that matter, may not be aware of the pattern it does exist. Check out the past history if you can and see if it has happened before.......
2007-08-12 21:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she thinks she can blame her husband for her cheating she will never stop. If she leaves her husband for you, then something you do, or don't do, will cause her to cheat. As long as she doesn't have to accept accountability for her behavior she will do what she wants and place the blame elsewhere.
2007-08-12 19:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋