I'm disabled and my husband was out of work for almost a year and some months. He was offered two jobs and the first, well, we wouldn't be able to live off that! $7.00 an hr.!? Then he was offered another job later for much higher pay which we COULD live off of. The bad thing is the shift is from 11pm to 7am. I told him to just be happy he has a job at all. Maybe later he'll be able to move to another shift. But tonight, he acted like he was going to his own funeral. What else can I say to make him understand that if he didn't have that job, we would be homeless right now!
2007-08-12 19:10:10 · 6 answers · asked by Fee-Fee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do the appreciating, try and make him something for breakfast, make him lunch to take to work. I get movies that he likes to watch so he can relax and I pray, incesently pray everynight that he will see that it's a job that's keeping us alive. If I could work, belive me, I would go and I've offered to give up my disability, but he said it's inevitable that I'd get sick and have to quit, so I didn't bring it up again.
2007-08-12 19:24:49 · update #1
pray and have faith in God...things will become better...times dont always remain the same. We all have our downs but its a matter of time. Just have faith in God and keep the jobs u currently have. The rest will change in due time.
2007-08-12 19:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by kera 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him the job can be a temporary position, encourage him to go back to school so he can get a better job. Give him time to adjust to the hours and he might begin to feel better about going. Keep encouraging him to go to school, there are grants that can help pay the tuition.
2007-08-12 19:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's depressed, and really who can blame him with the way things have been going. I'm sure he had visions of being a big breadwinner and showering you with diamonds.
My DH is the same way and I try to stay cheerful and let his bad moods roll off my back.
Sorry if that's not helpful. I do feel for you!
2007-08-12 20:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I will be in your husband position.
I will take a look another job, who give me more self esteem.
You have to see as your husband see. May be there is something terrible mental react who can not tolerate with your husband. Many change jobs, will give him more side of view. And give him growing good attiture with himself and his family
2007-08-12 20:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by qroq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation that needs to be handled with empathy. Maybe he needs to know that he's appreciated. Perhaps when he gets home you could say "Thanks for going to work, honey. I know you don't love this job but I appreciate that you do it to support us and I feel confident that something better will come along." Just knowing that he's appreciated may change his attitude.
Good luck!
2007-08-12 19:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by ozperp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him more time and appreciation.Slowly he shall come around.
2007-08-12 19:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋