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In a cheating relationship lets say we have:
wife, husband, mistress.

why does it seem like when the wife finds out, she hates the mistress more than the husband?

2007-08-12 18:32:45 · 23 answers · asked by Meg-gun 3 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

23 answers

from my own personal experience I didnt just hate the other woman I despised her she'd betrayed me she was supposed to be a friend someone I could trust , she was always there for me in the bad times and she was there when I hit rock bottom I was vulnerable and she saw it as her chance to move in on my marriage I wasnt being a very good wife at that stage she came to visit she cooked cleaned played with our kids and showed him effection he fell for it when I finally got back on track it was to late he'd fallen for her she was using him according to her previous friendships she did this before but we didnt know so that made me even angrier .....

the wound is still open the trust is still needing to be earnt back by him but because we have more emotional committments then people who cheat who dont have kids , financial responsiblities and lack of fundage to live apart we share a house and share our kids and our responsibilities I gave him an utlimatum me or her and told him no more texting , ringing her behind my back or pming with her in chat sites he obliged .....

the reason women hate the other woman is because they wonder what that woman had they didnt have that was the reason their man wandered its the nature of the beast and its society .....

hope this helped .....

2007-08-13 00:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2 0

First of all...there is no bond with the other woman. There is, of course, a bond with the husband.
Also to me it is a HUGE slap in the face for a woman to do this to another woman. The woman does it with full knowledge that she is doing something deplorable to the wife and putting her in a situation that she would be heartbroken in. To me, its almost like the mistress also have a vendetta against the wife. Like a competition with the wife and after getting her husband away from her, she feels like she won.
Of course the husband is to blame as well. But, I don't think so much emotion goes into a man cheating. I think the mistress has a host of emotions going on including the purposeful hurting of the wife.

2007-08-12 18:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I would say that when a women hate the other woman and not the man because she still love the man. She hate the woman for stealing her man. She don't hate the man because she still hope to patch things up with the man.
There are also cases where the women hate the man. This happens when the woman no longer love the man and does not want to have anything to do with the man anymore. Usually this will end up break-off or divorse if already married.

2007-08-12 19:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by sosme 1 · 0 0

My view is that someone women are so desperate for a guy they would rather set him aside thinking they can patch things up with him and work them out and attack the "competition" the woman because they think that she is the one that is trying to take the wife's long awaited guy away. When in reality the wife, herself, has her focus skewed because the guy is the one that is saying he is not getting something from her. So he took it upon himself to find it else where. But usually the wife never figures this out until later on down the road.

P.S. Some women are just that desperate to have a guy, they rather fight their own mother and stick with a dip sh*t of a man than see the truth right in front of her face.

2007-08-12 18:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 1 0

because stupid women would like to believe that it is the other woman's fault. that some how and some way this strange woman has lured their "oh so faithful" man into their lustful arms. when in all actuality, it was the man that did the luring. for women to get mad at their man, it would mean that they would have to believe that everything about that man and their relationship is a lie. and for some, that is too devastating to bare. some women feel that they can not catch anyone else and he is the best that she can do. there are so many reasons but the only reason that justifies this behavior for me, is stupidity on the girlfriends part.

2007-08-12 18:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by meme 2 · 2 0

The mistress is the rival. She is the interference. We hate her worse for tempting our man, and for being touched by our man. We feel like she took him away from us.

She is also a lot easier to beat up than the husband is. That really annoys him when he sees his wife pounding the heck out of his mistress.

2007-08-12 18:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I don't know. I've always hated that. Yes, the women may be easy or slutty.

However, your man cheated. He made a decision to do so. He knew what he was getting himself into.

You can't even argue that the women seduced the man. Why didn't the man stop having contact with this women, before it got to this point? See what I mean. HE knew what he was getting himself into.

He cheated on you. He made the decision. He knew the consequences. No one makes you do something you don't want to do.

If he didn't want to cheat, he would not have.

No where in there is the women.

2007-08-12 18:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2 0

I think she hates the mistress more because it is safer. The husband is someone she loves and is legally and familiarly bound to. If she allows herself to be as angry as she should be, then she has the compounded stress of figuring out what to do about it. If she hates the mistress, well....there's really no consequence unless she takes a chainsaw to her.

2007-08-12 19:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0 0

I think that the woman hates them both on an equal parallel, I honk if she is directing her anger at the woman Thai she has not pursued the male element to completion, These take time and can be dangerous

2007-08-13 07:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0 0

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2016-10-02 05:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by pantano 4 · 0 0

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