That one of my guy friends is gay. Well, he doesn't know I know. But, we found gay p*rn sites on my boyfriends computer from one of the nights that his friend borrowed it. Then, we looked on his temp. files on his comp. and there are lots more of them. Its not viruses or anything like that because it is all at times when my boyfriend isnt in the apartment, and at blocks of time. He never ever ever seemed to me to be gay, so its very weird and new to me. I already tired telling him what i found and that I knew, but he wouldn't admit to it. Is there any way i can get him to confess??
2007-08-12 17:57:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The reason why he doesn''t tell you the truth is becuase he doesn't trust you. I think the first step is build up and reinforce your friendship. You need to give him confident that you won't make him embarrass for this.
2007-08-12 18:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Notorious Guy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if I sound irritated, but this isn't your choice. You can't force him out of the closet, so let him come out when he's ready. That is, if he is gay or bi or whatever. Plus, you probably embaressed him by asking him about the porn sties, so I'd reassure him that you are his friend and that you "love" him no matter what.
2007-08-13 06:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by E.Q. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "seemed to be gay"? You don't have act or dress a certain way to be gay. I know big burly construction worker guys who are gay.
2007-08-13 02:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking questions. Don't "force" him to come out of the closet.
He might very well be just looking for his true self.
But DO let him know you are there for him, whichever his sexual orientation.
2007-08-13 01:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Motitad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont force anything upon him. He's probably insecure about his sexuality and doesn't want to talk about it yet. Give him some time to think things through and to figure himself out.
2007-08-13 01:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't mean he's gay...only human. I know MANY straight guys who have looked at gay porn. I also know many straight women who have looked at lesbian porn. He might just be curious, and doesn't appreciate you trying to get him to admit to something that he's a) not, or b) not ready to admit to yet.
2007-08-13 01:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Molten Orange 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont know dude he might just be bi-curious but he can also be closeted who knows..just wait for more clues...and well try to prove them to him idk...but thats kinda evading privacy...but hey do what you want
2007-08-13 01:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be bi-curious.
Look for clues and wait it out.
2007-08-13 01:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by the godfather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with "the godfather"
2007-08-13 01:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by walks with goats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋