what should i do..AHHHHHHHH!!!!?

Question

ok so my gf wants to get breast and i dont want her to cuz shes only 21, and of course i allready know with whos money.. i do have the money, but i was saving it for a house, cuz im not all about loans....and i dont really think she needs them and yea i know what some ppl are gonna say.."hey man what dude doesn't want his girl to have bigger boobs" but its not like that i wiould be willing to throw down bets on the point that she will defintely regret doing it.. and if she has them done shes also gonna lose her job cuz she allready used up all her days off, but i cant just seem to get it through her head thats shes totally hot just the way she is.i mean im 20 6'1 and weigh 206 lbs(yea i know bmi says overweight blah blah) so if anyone should be thinking more about there body it should be me...and truthfully im running out of nice ways to tell her to shut the f*ck up..i realize its her choice and hers only, but theres much better ways for her to spend money, like getting our own place

Answer 1

Why do you have to pay for it? she is your girlfriend...not your wife. Ok, so lets say you pay for them and for some weird reasons destiny makes you part different ways...she will make some other man happy with something YOU paid!, because it is not like if you break up you can ask for those back. I don't want to be mean...but hey..if she wants them she has to pay for it.

Answer 2

Whether you're buying a house, or elective, cosmetic surgery for your girlfriend, both are very serious decisions with long-term implications and responsibilities.

You (and especially your girlfriend) should research the risks of both purchases.

Since your question sounds like the choice is as simple as "bigger breasts verses your own place," I'm including a couple links on the risks of breast augmentation surgeries.

If you approach this issue with a simple argument of "you don't need them" then you've already lost. She feels she needs them. Perhaps there's much more going on than just a self-esteem issue. What need does she hope to fulfill with a change to her appearance? After the breasts, will she want a nose job? A tummy tuck?

You mentioned she used up her days off at work and could easily lose her job. If she's lost interest in keeping her job, then this may not be a request for fake breasts, but real affection and validation.

Instead of looking for more ways to convince her that *you're* right, sit down and actually *listen* to her. You may be right, but that's not what's important here... she is.

Answer 3

Have her consult a doctor and see if she's eligable for it. The doctor may tell her it'll strain her body or that she should wait. Also, remind her that the larger her breasts are, the more they will cost her down the line- the bigger the bra the more it costs. What if she gets pregnant and has had the surgery already and her breasts grow and become different sizes? Also, you aren't married, so if she does use your money and you seperate, what are you going to do about it? Basically I would tell her that if she wants to improve her body and you don't, then she should come up with the money. Probably by the time she gets the money put together she'll have thought of a better thing to spend it on.

Answer 4

uh, wow. where do you live? well, if this is serious, getting a home is definitely more important than bigger breasts, and yes she will regret it, because they get bigger as she gets older and will probably want to have them reduced eventually to take the strain off her back and shoulders. i hate to say it, but maybe you need to look around at some other women, who might like a nice guy who wants to provide a house for their lady and loves her the way she is???? there are a few out there.

Answer 5

Big fake boobs or a house ... which is the better investment? Tell her you like her hooters just the way they are, no need to put sacks of silicone inside of them and scars under them. Save the money for your house. If she's too selfish to agree then boot her to the curb and find someone who is more reasonable.

Answer 6

Stop coming up with nice ways to tell her to shut the **** up and just tell her to shut the **** up. Sounds like she's an extremely high maintenance chick. Remember the words of Toby Keith, "A high maintenance woman don't want no maintenance man." You'll either have to train her right, or get rid of her. She'll break you wallet, brother man.

Answer 7

Dude. . . That sucks. . .

As for the smart thing to do . . . Get the house! I buy houses all the time now and if I started doing that when I was your age, I would be retired a long time ago.

Let her earn the money for the boobs if she wants them. That is a frivolous expense if you ask me, they don't go up in value, houses do.

Answer 8

Ask her to find a friend or some random female that has had a boob job so that you can 'try them out'. Feel them, look at them, study them, then announce you don't like them, they're fake feeling. In the meantime, you get a free grope with your girlfriend's permission. Maybe get them both topless for a little comparative grope!

Answer 9

Make her pay for them herself. Besides that when you have kids they're just going to sag. The bigger they are the harder they fall. My husband keeps telling me that in a few more years I'll be able to double a pair of tube socks for a bra and I keep telling him that I want him to put them back where he found them before we had kids. Bottom line...if she gets breast implants you'll eventually have to pay for a lift to.

Good luck. Tell her she can have them after you buy the house. You can't live in silicon.

Answer 10

Well there really isn't to much you can do tell her shes used up her sick days that she is beautiful without them and you we're saving the money to spend on a house. If that doesn't work well.... ur SOL unless you have some mind control device. IF you do send it to much