A few days ago, my guy friend of 5 years asked me out. (i've know him since i was 10.)
I asked him to let me think about it, because, i don't want to ruin a good friendship.
He told me that he's liked me for a while, just hasn't had the guts to ask me out.
He told me he really wanted to date me.
I like him, kind of. A little, but i can't see us as being more than friends right now.
I'm just afraid of being a rebound. (He just got out of a relationship, which ended in a horrible break up.)
What's a girl supposed to do?
Oh, additional details.
My dad and my best friend told me that I can do better than him.
My best friend thinks he's kind of chunky, which he is, but that, I do not mind.
2007-08-12 16:51:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You definitely get answers here, and I am sure you'll have fun reading different answers like I am. Follow what your instinct tell you. You'll know what to do, and be honest to yourself. Don't allow pressure get to you. It is your life take the time and relax. You'll be fine. By the way you can tell if he really likes you by his facial expression, body language and tone of voice or the way he talks to you because you can sense it or feel it in your nerves.
2007-08-12 17:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sofia Cruise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself. If you cant see the two of you being more than friends right now then just let him know.If he likes you that much then he will wait until either you are ready or not. Also, if you also decide against it, he should respect the friendship the two of you have.
But also keep in mind that best friends make the best partners in relationships. My fiancee was my best friend for 5 years and we are getting married soon. It does take a bit to get over the whole weird thing of dating your best friend but it is also alot easier than getting to know so mch about them in a relationship environment because if you're friends you'd know it all already...
did that make sense???
2007-08-12 17:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by tyrrellmeister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one there is nothing wrong with chunky my 17 yr old is dating a very large guy she is small and very pretty she says looks are the last thing to look at because they are the first thing that fades in a realationship her guy is awesome super nice just really great guy they were friends for about a yr first so if what is holding you back is your b/f's opinion do not let it or you may miss out on something great. try dating just do not get sexual until you know for sure you can go beyond friends.
2007-08-12 16:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Beckles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
You can still hang out and be friends. Later in life you are going to find out that the person you marry should be your best friend. My daughter had a really good friend since 6th grade and he secretly always loved her. When she was in high school I asked her why she didnt date him and she thought it would be wierd because they were just friends. She ended up marrying the guy. He is nothing like he was as a kid, he is a great guy. Point is, you have lots of time to wait for a serious relationship.
2007-08-12 17:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by bigDcowgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should.
A relationship always starts somewhere and being best friends is a good start. The only thing is that if you date you'll see him as just your 'boyfriend' and no longer a friend or best friend. And also if you break up it'll never be the same so make sure your ready for a long term relationship
2007-08-12 16:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you base your boyfriends on Daddy's opinoin no man will ever be right for his little girl. As far as your friend saying he is a little chunky. That is just shallow. He has been a good friend and a guy you can trust. He will probably treat you like an Angel. Give the guy a shot!!!
2007-08-12 16:58:56 · answer #6 · answered by ripstang3000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, just deal with him with the same courtesy and consideration that you give yourself and it should be just fine. At 15, you should just consider him a friend. With time though, great friendships can turn into much more. Everyone has something going against them as far as popular opinion is concerned, but seeing a person for who they are is much safer than making a comparison with someone else. Great luck.
2007-08-12 17:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by haywoodwhy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have a real good head on your shoulders and I applaud you for that. You should do just what your doing and wait. If hes on the rebound you should wait and see whats next for him. No sense in your getting hurt too. He'll always be a friend. But not if he uses you.
2007-08-12 16:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by ya-who 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say yes, of course. The only thing that could ruin the friendship, is trying to end the relationship. Nothing else will. Maybe you can do better than him, maybe not. But until the better guy comes along, say yes to the guy who wants to date you. And always make your own descions, don't let family make them for you.
2007-08-12 16:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and If you think you could really have something with this guy maybe you should go out with him. But if you do think it's nothing but a rebound, you might want to hang back and see what happens.
2007-08-12 16:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sadie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋