My friend likes this guy that broke up with her last year. He went off to college and is kinda far away. She loves him and keeps on talking bout him... when ever she hears his name, she gets realli sad...do you think she will get over him? I mean she has other great guy friends but yet, she REALLI REALLI REALLI can't get over this one...what should I do....I mean I hate seeing her like this..
2007-08-12 15:59:36 · 20 answers · asked by Chibi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have to convince her that she is messing up her own life going on fretting over this guy. He obviously didn't feel she was the right one for him, and I think he needs to be respected for doing the right thing. Tell her to turn the whole thing around. How would she feel if some guy was really hooked on her, but she didn't feel the same for him. Wouldn't it be the right thing for her to do to end the relationship? You can't make somebody love you back just because you feel that way about him.
Somewhere out there is just the right guy; one who will have exactly the kind of feelings for her that at the moment she feels about this one who broke up with her.. But the difference will be, it'll be somebody she feels the same way back. She should show her special feelings towards this guy by letting go, and sincerely wishing him all the luck in the world to find HIS "Mz.Right" someday, just as she will find her right guy.
2007-08-12 16:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes theres nothing you can do. Because if you try to push the fact to her that hes not in love with her anymore or together with her for that matter, she may push you away for hurting her.
My friend got dumped by her boyfriend and still talks like they are still dating. It's sad.
She will have to get over it in her own time.
The only thing I might suggest is just trying to get her more social without pushing the idea of a new boyfriend. Go to a party just to hang out and get her mind off this guy. Just surround her with other people and hopefully she will eventually get the idea of him out of her mind temporarily atleast.
good luck
2007-08-12 23:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will eventually move on. She may never forget, you usually don't forget your first loves, but she will find someone else. The best thing for her is your continual support. It is obvious you care. If she needs to talk about him, let her. But don't dwell on the subject. Let her get it off her chest, listen to her, then move on in the conversation. Keep her involved in life and before you know it she will meet someone new.
2007-08-12 23:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by tridak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Right now she needs someone there for her. It might take a little while for her to realize that he is no good for her. You can't really change her mind about someone she loves. Just kinda help her guide in a different direction on the whole dating thing.
2007-08-12 23:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kasey S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she will get over him, but it will just take time and all you can do is be there for her as a friend. Keep her mind busy go to the mall or go to the theater and watch a movie.
2007-08-12 23:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's already been a year, it's going to be REALLY tough for her to forget about him and move on. Maybe she just needs even more encouragement from her friends. Tell her she needs to move on, and go do fun activities with her like go shopping or go laser tag so that she could forget about him in that one instant. The more she realizes she can go on without him, the more she can be able to let him go.
2007-08-12 23:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by musicrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you can do to help is try to focus her attention on something more positive. Also, avoid mentioning this guy around her and tell your others friends not to talk about him either. She will move on but she can't as long as he is talked about.
2007-08-12 23:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like this, if he hasnt even made progress to get back with her, she has no other choice but to move on, its hard but I think she loves him more than he does her, actually he is probably not thinking of her
2007-08-12 23:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by pixieprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to help,but it sounds like a lost cause.When she's ready to let go she will.But it won't hurt that long,because if she beleive's in God he will fufill her heart with her every needs.She's just going to have to believe.Wishing her the best of luck.
2007-08-12 23:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend like this also....but no matter what i say or no matter what other great guy she meets, she would never get over her ex.....it just takes time for these kind of girls, she'll meet someone else in time
2007-08-12 23:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Triniloveyxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋