My boyfriend and I moved in together three years ago. When he moved out of his house, his mom gave him several boxes of what I would call junk. The contents include report cards, awards, school work...etc. from his childhood. Another box had ornaments from his childhood. There is also an ugly quilt that his dead great-grandmother made and gave to him.
I tried to donate that quilt once with his permission. It was in a new garbage bag, ready to go, but we, unfortunately had a visit from his sister and mom. They were nosey and dug through our garbage bag and found it, took it out, and basically said, "You better keep this because Great Grandma is dead."
WHY? We don't ever use it and we have very little storage room. I also want to toss/give away these ornaments that seem oh so sentimental to THEM, not US, yet they wouldn't take them! What do I do?
Also, no one will ever look at old school work/report cards (not for memories), right? Can I toss them without fear?
2007-08-12 15:38:00 · 8 answers · asked by Brunei 2 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
Personally I think its up to him. If he doesnt want them, then dump them, if he does want them, then find them a nice dark corner. If he doesnt care, then find them a new home in the dumpster.
My husband is a horder, we lived together 7 years before he finally got rid of most of his junk, he still keeps the ugly old stuff his great grandmothers sisters friends daughter gave him (he cant bear to throw away stuff people gave him) but hes slowly getting there.
it sounds like he doenst want them either, time to go I say... and when the family asks where something is.. ."oops that mustve fallen off the back of the moving truck" or "oh my, was that in one of the boxes in the garage/basement that got wet with the flooding??!!"
goodluck!
2007-08-12 16:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you dare. There are a lot of things from my youth that were thrown out, and I miss them now. You may think they're junk now, but you, and maybe your kids (or his kids, or grandkids) would really like to find out their forebear got a C in history or an A in spelling. As for the quilt, probably the same thing; but if they want to keep it maybe they should store it.
2007-08-12 15:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by llwonsuzette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are what is known as 'pack rats'. They don't want to throw anything away. I would box up all the stuff and send it over to their house with a note that says, "we don't want any of these items, if you don't want them please throw them away".
I am a senior, worked 30 years and NEVER had to show a report card to anyone.
I wish you well and I applaud you on keeping junk out of your home.
2007-08-12 15:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its annoying, the one thing i hate most is clutter, esp of stuff ill never use. this is however a moral problem, its it "sentimental things" for HIM and therefore is not really your tjhings to throw away. maybe u could pack them away in the back of a cuboard for a few yrs, then ull have a basis for an argument when u want to say they are never used. or maybe u caould sit down with his family or him and pick out a few things he wants to keep and chuck the rest. if u hate the bedspread maybe u can pack it at the back of a cuboard or under the bed in a box out of the way, if not, maybe u could alter it in some way to match your tastes. i know its hard but i wouldnt like it if someone threw out my stuff, its not a good judge of character.
2007-08-12 15:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by nnatindahat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult with HIM and then maybe he'll agree to you packing it back up and taking it all back to Mother... ask her nicely to continue to 'keep' it for her son and the grandkids to come someday , but at HER house, because you have a tendency to 'declutter' and could make a mistake and throw it out again..... but if SHE keeps it safe, it will always be there if hubby wants it.....
and YES, keep the report cards!!... nothing better to have handy to show the kiddies....and Granny's ugly quilt might be handstitched and worth a nice chunk of money one day... putting that in the trash could be your biggest booboo.....
beyond all that....he's only a boyfriend... not even a husband, in which case you'd be part owner of his 'stuff'.... you got no right to be messing with his stuff at all....
2007-08-13 03:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by meanolmaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's his, is his. Hands off and don't even question it. Just load all the stuff up into plastis containers and store it up in the attic or garage. Unless you wouldn't mind if you come home from work one day and find out that he threw away all your shoes because he thinks that you have too many.
2007-08-12 18:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Silvio 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him throw out what he wants to.. No you don't need report cards it junk to me.
2007-08-12 15:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go through everything together and whatever he wants to keep, he can and whatever he wants to throw he can..
2007-08-12 18:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by lifes a b*tch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋