Wedding ceremony after baby is born and is like 7 months old?

Question

Hi!
We want to get married but I am pregnant. With that, it is very inconvenient to have a reception, plus my father most likely will not be able to attend since he is out of country anyways.

I was thinking if it is ok to have the actual ceremony in 2008...hm during winter? That way baby will be almost 1 year old.....
What do you think?

Answer 1

(I am a Chaplain and Wedding Officiate) I have a quite a few couples in almost the same circumstance as you. I do weddings for them that are almost like an elopment. A few guests, nice ceremony. When things are settled down for them, the wonderful dream wedding is done! I have them do a family sand ceremony or family unity candle ceremony in addition to the reg. wedding ceremony. Which by the way, is a re-newal of vows. It can be sooo wonderful.
I believe in marraige, and with a lovely child on the way....go ahead and get married. Justice of the Peace, or wedding officiate, it will be wonderful. Take a look at my website, there are samples of the family sand and unity candle ceremonies. You are most welcome to use the ceremonies that are there. I wish you the very best, Chaplain Debby

Answer 2

Traditionally, a man and a woman get married first and then have a baby. However, there has been an increase in couples having a baby first and then getting married or having a baby and not getting married at all. Both practices seem to be more accepted by society than they ever were previously. I don't know any official statistics, but, personally all the people I know who had a baby first and than got married have gotten divorced. I am sure there are many success stories of couples having a baby first than getting married, but personally, I don't know any. If a couple is living together and has a child, my opinion is it is more appropriate to have a small wedding ceremony followed by a reception for close family and friends. I have one cousin who got married while pregnant and had no problems having a reception while pregnant. This was about 30 years ago when having a baby first wasn't as acceptable a practice as it is now. Getting married quickly while pregnant was much more common in those days. She and her husband are still together but have a volatile relationship and the baby she was pregnant with during their wedding died of a rare genetic disease just before she turned 2. A very sad and tragic event for a young couple to get through. Two other cousins had their babies first and then got married. One baby was 1 1/2 when his parents got married (big wedding, expensive reception, now divorced). The second baby was 10 months old when her parents got married (big wedding, modest reception, had 2 additional children, now divorced). I can think of 6 other couples who had babies first, then got married, but are now divorced. About a dozen more couples I know got pregnant (some planned, some not), had the baby, didn't get married and are no longer with the mother/father of their child. If it is important for your dad to attend your wedding ceremony, I say wait until he can attend. If it isn't important, I say there is no need to wait. If you want to get married, go ahead and do so whenever you want.

Answer 3

The whole point of marriage is sharing your life and love with another person. Some people believe that premarital sex is wrong, so I understand your hesitation. But this is the 21st century, and if you love this person, then it shouldn't matter how old your baby is, or even the color of the shoes you will be wearing that day. All that matters is that you two are going to be together, and providing a wonderful life for that baby. That's all that should matter to you. Good luck and congratulations on the beautiful baby and impending wedding!!!!

Answer 4

First, talk to you fiancee....you could have a small legal wedding and have the big one later, or just go for next winter. Why do you need the big wedding reception? I don't know your money situation, but I do know babies are expensive, it might be better to do the small nice wedding now and maybe for your ten year anniversary have a vow renewal and big party. Good luck with everything!

Answer 5

I was in a friend's wedding who already had a baby (with the groom) and they did this lovely ring-exchange ceremony with the baby. It was quite a few years ago, so I don't really remember the details, but it was really unique. They had a tiny gold band on a necklace that they together put around her neck as a symbol of their eternal family bond. I don't remember the scripture, but I'm sure you could research that or ask your minister for advice.

Answer 6

sounds good to me. i'm 19 weeks and 4 days pregnant. the baby is due jan. 2, 2008 and we are getting married march 15, 2008 so just a few months later.

Answer 7

I think you should get married when you feel like the time is right and you are prepared to spend the rest of your life with one person. Don't get married just because you are pregnant, I see that all the time and it never works out. I am 30 weeks pregnant, me and my bf have been together 4 years and we are in no rush.

Answer 8

hi, im in the same boat as you, but my dad is in the country...
its up to you and your partner and what you 2 want...
if you wish to wait til the child is almost one (and u have ur figure almost back) then thats what you should do.
my partner and i are thinking of getting married alil earlier then that we are going to get married while our baby is 3 or 4 months that way my mum can look after the baby while photos are getting done, and the baby wont be at a age when they only want there mum or dad, and at 6 months or alil older the baby may want to crawl around and be active, and if thats the case, the baby wil be unsettled all day. but at the end of the day it is up to u and your partner, and keep in mind if your baby is one that is very attached to you, it maybe hard to keep bub settled

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Go to the justice of the peace and get married now. Have the big wedding and party later. Whenever is good for you. winter 2008 sounds good.
Getting married and creating a secure envirement for you child is about so much more than a party.