My fiance and I hardly have sex anymore. We have sex maybe twice a month. This isn't healthy to me, and I'm afraid if we're like this now, what will marriage be like? I know it may have a lot to do with his parents moving in with us. It's supposed to be just temporary until they can get on their feet. But, we have a big place, our rooms are very far away from each other and it's impossible for them to hear us. But when I start to kiss him or grab his member he just laughs it off and stops me. He says he's still attracted to me, but just tired. For some reason, I don't believe him. Is he cheating, or has he lost interest in having sex with me?
2007-08-12 14:00:27 · 23 answers · asked by DRE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried communicating. I've asked him and asked him what I could do to make things easier for him and what I could do to help put him in the mood. I've even tried going down on him as soon as he enters our room. He just lets me do it and then we still don't end up having sex. He says he's still attracted. I know without a doubt he loves me, but just want a healthy sex life!!
2007-08-12 15:07:45 · update #1
it could be that he feels funny having sex with you even though he is grown and they live with him, but its more out of respect to his parents. or he could be cheating. i think the later only because a man can really care less who is in the house when he wants to have sex. communication is key. ask him what is going on and if it is his parents let him know that they have to go and soon because its having a negative effect on your relationship which is making doubt the marriage. GodBless
2007-08-12 14:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My lord woman, your gonna marry some man and you can't even communicate with him enough to find out why you aren't having sex? If thats as commited as you are to each other, that you can't sit down and have a grown up conversation about something as intimate as your sexual relationship than just don't even bother getting married. You won't make it.
Just talk to him! You think he's cheating on you? You trust him that much? Its prolly just cause his parents are in the house. Would you want to do it if you mom or dad could walk in any second to ask where you keep the coffee? Or maybe he's just stressed, which is making him tired, which makes him not in the mood. It could be a million things. But if you don't communicate with him how will you know? Worries me that your automatic assumption is that he's cheating on you. Sounds like a winning relationship. Make sure you get a prenup!
2007-08-12 14:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about it , he is just conftirble with you. They go thru this sometimes. If you just stop worrying about it you will see, dont make a big deal about it. Just one day when you guys are home alone just seduce him and make sure is a good day, it will work out. I believe that in a relationship you have to be able to to talk to each other and be conftirble around eachother. Is not all about SEX, SEX just makes it a little more interesting. You also might want to try new things, NOT REALLY crazy things but new to your relationship.
Just give him some space, or give him the "blue pill" nah just kidding. .. Be glad he loves you girl. Only you knows him. we dont.
good luck.
xoxo
2007-08-12 14:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Stinky007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spice it up a little, maybe he is a little bored with the same old thing all the time.
People like variety, let him view some porn with you or send him online for a while.
Try new flirting techniques, hair colors/styles or just talk very sweetly to him and see if any of that works.
If not, try to discuss the problem with him.
If this does not resolve the problem, send him to the doctor for a work-up and possible treatment.
If none of this works, dump him or get used to a sexless life!
2007-08-12 14:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No he isnt cheating or losing interest in you he is just tired. Think about it your parents move in you are trying to live your life but have them in your house now. People tend to revert back to the children stage when Parents are around. I don't mean acting childish but you are more guarded in what you say and do around your parents then lets say around your friends. Having any family memember live with you is stressful. I have had my brother and brother in law live with us. I ended up feeling like a guest in my own home. Also if he is supporting his parents right now he could be stressed about money. There is nothing like money problems to put a damper on your sex life. Try talking to him and telling him how you feel. Then really listen to what he has to say and respect what he has to say.
2007-08-12 14:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes this is the beginning of the end unless you do something right away.....i suggesst you talk to him about your feelings instead of accusing just let him know that sex is important and you feel your relationship will lose its intimacy....communication is important if you can afford to get away definitely try even if its a cheap motel for a four hour nap (wink wink)
how long has this been going on..
its possible that he could be cheating but try not to ascribe ill will...just deal with the problem at hand
seek a relationship counselor if he is willing to go
start doing you----i guess you have a lot of unused energy prepare for the worse (take your mind off things by focusing things you enjoy or would like to try and improving your self)
2007-08-12 14:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Your problem is very common. Try doing things that you have never done before: positioning, locations, wardrobe, roll play. There are a lot of things out there that you can experiment with. I would hope he is not cheating, but if you try changing it up he might like the new you!
2007-08-12 14:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tostito 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just think, his parents are probably having more sex in "your" house, then you are :{
I'm just kidding, well no not really.
It probably is true ;)
Anyway, if he's still affectionate with you in other ways, then I wouldn't worry about it.
Like as long as he is still kissing you, hugging you, holding your hand when you 2 go out or are sitting on the couch.
Little things like that, that is telling you that he loves you "more" than just having sex.
Read into those little signs too, don't ignore them :)
2007-08-12 14:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Have you two been arguing a lot? Some men cannot have sex just for the sake of having sex. If he has resentment or anger towards you-- this will explain why there's no sex or very little of it.
2007-08-12 14:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It very well could be the presence of his parents. It may be exciting to you/no big deal, but it's different for him.
Have you tried discussing this with him to find out what the problem is?? If not, you should!
2007-08-12 14:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋