I am a mother of two boys (one is about to be born in 3 weeks) It makes me sad when people say things like-you will always be close to your girls but your boys won't want anything to do with you when they grow up, or whatever. I am extremely close to my four year-old son. He is what most people would call a "mama's boy". I love him more than life itself. I hope I will always be close to him. My question is- what can I do to make him always want to be close to me too? If you have this type of relationship with your Mom, or if you don't, why do you think that is? Are there things that I can do as he's growing up that will facilitate this?
2007-08-12 13:53:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My goal is to make him an independent, law-abiding member of society who cares about others, is good to women & loves himself. I don't want to be overbearing. I will respect his choices even if I don't always agree with them. I just want to be there for him always and unconditionally.
2007-08-12 14:04:45 · update #1
please don't stress about nothing ... and it is nothing ...ok, boys/guys/men(I'm 52y's old) are different in how they show emotions ... totally diff to girls always will be .... BUT that doesn't mean that we don't love, respect or need our mums any less ... we just don't see the need to show it 24/7 so when we do it means more because we just don't say it ... we mean it with all our hearts .... and all you have to do is be who you are ... their loving mum ...
2007-08-12 14:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a pretty rotten kid and my mother took the brunt of my actions. However, she was a single mother as dad died when I was just 3 so she never had any help in disciplining me. Now however I am a lot more mature and have lived through my troubled youth. Today I am very proud to say that my mother and I are very close and can actually call each other friends as well as mother/son. She is going to be 80 years old soon and my wife and I are going to ask her if we both sold our houses would she like to buy into a house with an in-law suite so we could all live together. Mother's are the most important female figures in any males life and regardless of what you do you need not worry about trying to rush things for your young son to enable/ensure that he'll stay close with you throughout his life. Fact of live is that he will someday hopefully get detatched from the apron string and go off into the world to experience things on his own. But he will return to the womb whenever he needs your love and support and eventually will be there whenever you need him. Best of luck as your present job of parenting is indeed the most difficult and often time thankless position in the world.
2007-08-12 21:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always be his mom. Nothing can change that. If you're a good mom, he'll love you. Just don't smother him or get overly possessive in trying to be in his life. There will be other women in his life and if they feel that he's too much of a momma's boy, that's not good for him. You want your son to grow up to be confident and independent, not a momma's boy.
2007-08-12 20:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sisters and i have a great relationship with both of our parents.. and no we werent the greatest kids.. weve all had our screw-ups.. there is no single reason for having such a great relationship but i think a few reasons is that my parents have always been there for us, whether they wanted to be or not.. they also give us a lot of freedom to do what we wanted even though most other parents would have disapproved.. they would always take our side when it came to problems at school.. but only when we they felt that the school was at fault.. it the problem was between kids then they would usually stay out of it.. kids will be kids.. another thing was that we all knew the value of a dollar very early in life.. they never forced us to do anything but they encouraged us to do plenty.. show up for all their events.. whether its a ball game or a dance recital..
i would say, in all, just be there for them, give them their space, listen to them, and do as much as you can with them..
2007-08-12 21:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do...eventually he may start branching out on his own. It's a guy thing/ point of pride. All you can do is maintain the balance that a warm and loving mother does. That way even if he doesn't want to stay close, he'll love you enough to.
2007-08-12 21:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by COOLKIDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys love their Mom's they just need their space more then girls. I mean our you going to take your boy shoe shopping? I know that's not everything, just an example.
2007-08-12 20:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Iwanttobeunique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you kiddin', guys would be lost without their mothers
even when they in thier teenage prime and they all "thugged out" when they get into a heap of trouble they always come bk to mama..lol
2007-08-12 20:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋