Im 18 and trying to move out..im going to start college soon and im going to start having to pay for it my self.im 18 and i cant even go to walmart without asking my parents.they took my cell phone and i remember wen i said i was moving out i got a slap to my face..im tired of this..when i go out i have to be home at 8pm/9pm.i have a job but its not all that great its just for now to work with my school shedule. my mom wants me to end this relantionship i have with my boyfriend.she asked me when was i going to leave him and i said never and she said that she was going to make it happen.every choice i made by myself my parents bih at me saying im suppose to ask them when i go out etc. im so stressed out and dont know what to do except move out..do any of yall know where they can help me pay for college?and do yall think the right choice is to move out?
2007-08-12 13:38:34 · 13 answers · asked by DEE DEE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just got up and left my parents after turning 18 to California for a guy I was with at the time whom now I'm divorcing because of domestic violence. You can go and apply for scholarships for school or government grants or student loans. What state do you live in? If you feel more comfortable answering that in private me email is short_mommy_20@yahoo.com. It was wrong for me to just get up and leave the way I did since I pretty much did it for a guy and because my parents were treating me in that manner as well. If you move out you definitely want a set in stone plan and a back up plan so you have two routes just incase one doesn't follow thru like planned. Is there any reasoning that your parents may have to forbid or want the relationship you have with your boyfriend to end? The common rule most parents use these days is as long as you live under their roof in their household you have to follow their rules and curfews and etc. I hope I've been of some help with your situation and your question. Good Luck! If you need more information or want more help feel free to email me at the email address I provided for you.
2007-08-12 13:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by short_mommy_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear,
The decision to move out at age 18 is legally up to you in most states. In some states, you must be 19 to move out on your own without parental co-sign/consent. Look at the law in your state. If it is at 18, make sure you understand the real world. There are a lot responsiblities you do not face in your parents home. There are things to think about other than your friends, fashion, and going out. If you are looking to go to college, you have many options to get it paid for. Here are some avenues you can look into...
united ***** college fund
federal grants/scholarships
local scholarships
You can look for these online-the easiest way is to do a search for scholarships. You will need to apply for many just to get a couple. Your gpa in high school makes a big difference as well as references from professional people you deal with closely.
Chose your path wisely andmake sure it's the right one. Just remember that even though they seem controlling right now, it's because they love you and want to protect you. I didn't see anything about a baby or jail time in your memo so they are doing a good job so far. Make them proud.
2007-08-12 13:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by April K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are slapping you, controlling your social life, and basically treating you like crap, then yes I think you're making the right decision by moving out. Some distance will do you good, even if it's just temporary. The easiest thing to do would be to live on campus at a state college, which costs a lot less than a private college. Cover the cost with job savings plus apply for every scholarship you can find!
2007-08-12 13:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can usually get financial aid from your school, from the FAFSA i think it's called form is from the government which gives grants as long as you are a naturalized citizen and have never committed a felony. You can also get student loans and defer payments 6-12 months after graduation. I think you make a great choice to move out because you are 18 and you have the right to go to walmart, have a relationship, a job, a cellphone, and happiness. Good luck!
2007-08-13 03:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With age comes responsibility. If you don't like the treatment you receive at home take action and start your own life on your own. It will be hard, but it's possible. Many people do it. You need to look online for school grants to help with college. Then search apartments or houses for rent in the area of your school. If you have to get 2 or 3 jobs then that's what you have to do. I had 3 jobs, my own house, and paying for college at the same time. If you have the will then there is a way. Good luck and don't let your boyfriend talk you out of going to college.
2016-05-21 01:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move out. Go to your college and ask to speach to a peer counselor. Tell them the situation and see if you can get a dorm room.
If not, get some roommates and find a nice apt to share. The soon you get out and show them you can be responsible, the better it is for you, plus if you move out for a yr before going to college they don't have to pay for it, you can get grants and work study to pay for the education and you won't have to deal with your parents ever again unless you want to
Good luck
2007-08-12 13:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kathleen N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a lot of cases with over bearing parents you cannot have a healthy relationship at all until you move away from them and sever that dependency.
Go to your college and ask about student housing grants, or programs in your school or state.
2007-08-12 13:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a part time job while you're attending college. Also, search for roommates using various reliable internet websites like http://roommates.com or http://craigslist.org
You probably won't be able to rent an apartment by yourself with a part time job, unless you'll attend college where the rents are crazy cheap (Like, rural Nebraska or Iowa). Good luck to you.
2007-08-12 13:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very hard and usual you do this step by step unless you went into the service than moving out is at ounces.Keep good contact with your parents and respect them they want what is best for you.And there will be times that you will need to fall back on them.Than later in live they will need you and i hope you be there for them too.
2007-08-12 13:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by hillman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i would. so u can get a break from all that and get some distance. but i think thats kinda messed up that ur parents r trying to controll ur relationship and having to be home a 9 but u should move out so ur parents wouldnt be breathing down ur neck like that
2007-08-12 13:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋