which is more correct.....we marry for getting better OR we are getting better to marry ?

Question

away of satisfying instincts ........how does marrige make us different ?

Answer 1

Hi,
Why should we marry to get better. Why should we get better to marry? If we find our knowledge, understanding, experience improving as we journey through life, this has to do with our own choices and how we cope with life's challenges. We should marry for love, surely?
Polly

Answer 2

I think its the second. Cuz nowadays people change themselves in so many ways in order to attract the one they want. But the change is temporary. After marrige people start to show thier true colors. So they act better to marry. I hope this makes some kind of sense!

Answer 3

We should marry to get better, but it often brings out the worst in us. Marriage is realistically and historically all about property. Without marriage, there is no legal division of property or inheritance. Marriage protects all of this.

Do not confuse marriage with mating. One can have all of the delights of marriage without a legal ceremony. It is our culture that has mixed the two, with girls, and perhaps boys, dreaming of marriage, when in truth, they are dreaming of finding their mates.

In other cultures, spouses are selected by the parents. Many of these marriages have been happy. Sometimes there are matchmakers who help the parents find the right mates for their children, somewhat akin to our own Internet Dating Services, except that our people have freedom of choice.

Marriage is a protection for both wife and husband and children. It is a registered legal ceremony meant to verify the proper ownership of property. The love and caring that can go along with marriage is up to you and your selected mate. You can both cherish these feelings or abuse them and lose them.

This is why I have always been in favor of Gay Marriages. Since marriage is a contract, why shouldn't everyone have the same contractual rights, if they so desire? The other side of it, the emotional side, is up to the people involved and has nothing to do with signing that contract. It can exist without marriage.

Answer 4

Our need for identity is our need for fidelity. Neither are more correct, both are positive. If a person chooses marriage, that person has chosen against self isolation. If a person does not choose marriage, that doesn't mean they have chosen self isolation. What kind of marriage are we talking about.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson

http://www.marxists.org/archive/marx/works/1844/manuscripts/comm.htm

'Finally, this movement of opposing-universal-private-property to private property finds expression in the brutish form of opposing to marriage (certainly a form of exclusive private property) the community of women, in which a woman becomes a piece of communal and common property. It may be said that this idea of the community of women gives away the secret of this as yet completely crude and thoughtless communism.[30] Just as woman passes from marriage to general prostitution, [Prostitution is only a specific expression of the general prostitution of the labourer, and since it is a relationship in which falls not the prostitute alone, but also the one who prostitutes – and the latter’s abomination is still greater – the capitalist, etc., also comes under this head. – Note by Marx [31]] so the entire world of wealth (that is, of man’s objective substance) passes from the relationship of exclusive marriage with the owner of private property to a state of universal prostitution with the community. This type of communism – since it negates the personality of man in every sphere – is but the logical expression of private property, which is this negation. '


Think Bountiful British Columbia (poligamist community)

Answer 5

I believe both, at sometimes one is more in effect than the other. We must be at our best to marry but marriage will certainly help to improve us as people. We must use all avenues to grow and develop into the people we are meant to be.

Answer 6

I don't think either one of these ideas is correct. We marry as a sign of committment to one other person. And that's it! Not to get better. And we aren't necessarily any better for doing it.

Answer 7

Obviously we are getting better to marry.

Answer 8

This is a pretty goofy question. I don't think either choice makes any sense so would have to say they're both shitso.

Answer 9

Neither one makes any sense.....
Are you trying to say "We marry to better ourselves"?

Answer 10

Neither!