This actually hurts our relationship sometimes. After a successful romp, she's very loving and affectionate. Lately she's had additional pressures causing stress in her life and her success rate reaching climax has dropped to around half the time. Sometimes when this happens she withdraws from me emotionally and remains frustrated and sad for up to 12 hours or so. Is this something I should be concerned about, or should I just be okay with it?
2007-08-12 12:45:51 · 17 answers · asked by oogabooga37 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
to secret service: This percentage is based on her best guess about her own mind and her own feelings.
to wayasay: I'm being honest! I don't understand why I am F.O.S.! Is this situation unfathomable to you? Why?
2007-08-12 12:57:36 · update #1
at least she is honest about how she is wired
you can build from there
"Is this something I should be concerned about, or should I just be okay with it? "
i would say do as little as possible - she will work it out herself but let her know you are there to stay (if you are) and don't plan on going anywhere, that she can work on it with you there . Don't pretend to be ok with it - if you are not. Just be honest.
2007-08-12 12:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's not that hard to reach a big O, but participation on your part would help a lot. Get a book, google & search, & find out what techniques to use to toss her off the edge.
Sounds to me like your wife has a high testosterone level--a sex drive more like a man than a woman. A dr. could prescribe something to help that if it's a problem to you both.
I wonder if there's something in her background or childhood that's pushing her to be successful in bed. If she's not successful, she gets depressed. Why? Most of us just deal with it, get cozy and enjoy the cuddle. A therapist might be called for.
TX Mom
not a dr.
2007-08-20 04:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not quite sure what that 85% means.... but I do know that she is having the problems and it is not your fault and should not be withdrawing from you... she needs to learn how to manage the stress in her life so that it is not affecting her whole life. We all have stress, some just deal better than others. Good Luck
2007-08-12 14:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by No Drama for this Queen 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Sounds a lot like my relationship. You should be VERY concerned about it. Start by actively participating in her life. This includes doing the best in shielding her from all kinds of stress and worries that she has to deal with all by herself so far.
2007-08-12 12:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by OC 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
guy you gotta choose for it, perhaps initiate small inspite of the undeniable fact that and artwork as much as the prize. too lots too quickly my be extremely a marvel. attempt, i like it once you tell me what to do, of path whilst your making out. A bolder path could be to get a video of what you desire and marvel her with it, I advise everybody is distinctive who's familiar with what or how she will respond to superb, different than you... that isn't any longer wholesome to suppress this type of desire in an prolonged term dating.
2016-11-12 03:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very sexual. It does not sound like she can express or get release via other ways like conversation very easily.
It would probably be good develop more tools for your relationship toolkit, so to speak... You should try to find other ways to be supportive of each other in other ways besides sex, regardless of how successful that is most of the time.
2007-08-13 20:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by snoopy l 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds more like a man reaction, or a person who handles deferred gratification poorly.
Jung said that in a good marriage, sex is 10 %, in a troubled marriage 90 % of what is important.
Me, I don't know, give me her number and I will talk to her.
2007-08-19 14:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by smkeller 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is not at all a problem. Every one has 100% sexual feelings. Fortunatly she opens her feelings. Because you are a 100% good Husband. That's it. I hope you are a lucky person. Be happy. All the best.
2007-08-20 07:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by sai R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It certainly means you should be worried mate more than anything for yourself.
You never know what they could do in the end and they always walk scot free.
Remember Lorena Bobbitt!!!!!
Take care and get a new life.
2007-08-12 12:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
No this isnt normal, it sounds to me as if u want something and u want her to answer she needs nookie before she answers that is wrong. my feelings for my husband are friendship, companionship, partnership and lover. but not all lover, i can talk to him about anything and everything and sex isnt a big factor here...
2007-08-13 03:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋