What do you do when your in-laws ignore you when you ask them not to do something involving your 1 year old?
Example-placing in car without infant seat.(wife shrugs it off with no regard)
2007-08-12 12:30:00 · 7 answers · asked by Sergio R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Safety must always come first, so if they can't follow the law, and keep your baby safe then don't allow them to take you baby.
2007-08-12 12:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by justall4ofus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to do this--buy your in-laws a car seat to have in their car. If there is an occassion that they come to pick your child up without the car seat--don't let them take your child.
Your wife doesn't want to have any type of issues with her parent's and let's it go--does she realize that as her parent's leave your driveway or theirs another car could hit them and your child be dead or severly injured? Pose that to her and see how she reacts.
The two of you are raising your child--NOT anyone else--advice is one thing but going against your beliefs or the law is another.
Dinner is almost done and your child wants a cookie--you say No and grandma says yes just like having pets (don't take this the wrong way) you don't feed your pets table food yet your mother or friends try to when they are at your home.
2007-08-12 19:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mignon F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They would NOT get the kid. It is a LAW that the child MUST be in a certified car seat installed by a certified technician ( in our state). If they should get stopped by police with child not in proper seating, they will be fined. You should not compromise on your child's safety. If that means that grandma and grandpa can not babysit with child, so be it. Our daughter and her husband are very strict about our granddaughter. We might give her 3 cookies at bed time instead of 2, or read her 3 stories instead of 2, but would never even give her 1 cookie if her mother didn't say it was OK. We love our gd very much and would never compromise on her safety or go against our daughters rules. (We do think some of her rules are a little silly, but we don't question them, we follow them.)
2007-08-12 19:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your example, I would make it clear the in-laws could no longer visit my child unsupervised at their home or anywhere else where the grandparents would be driving. And I would let them know definitively that I would call the police on them should they ever do it again - and believe me I would. And if my wife condoned it I would include her on the charges.
In other examples, I think you always have to firmly state your opinion. Anything safety related you can not back down. Other things just use your best judgment.
2007-08-12 20:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by Matt G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line. You and your wife need to be on the same page. Wtf is wrong with them? No infant seat??? You are the parent and with or without your wife by your side, they NEED to respect that. Don't feel awkward in confronting them about dissin' you. You don't need to be a jerk about it but let them know HELLO!!!! You're the father and you deserve some respect. I think if you give them a few "ahhhem, taps" on the shoulder verbally, they'll get the hint. And if not, then they're really dissin you. But speak to your wife first and try to get her on your page and if she isn't explain to her that there's gonna be some possible conflicts.
2007-08-12 19:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have them stop by and talk to her. Ground them for a month and don't let them have contact with your child.
2007-08-12 19:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's your child. You have a right to demand her safety be insured.
2007-08-12 19:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋