i'm 15 years old and 4 months pregnant! my older sister has been taking me to the docters and what not!,i need to tell my mom i'm pregnant,but i dont want her to worry.any ideas? the reason why i haven't told her from the start is because well she just got out of a divorce and i dont want her to get more upset.
2007-08-12 11:58:18 · 42 answers · asked by morgan 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Bottom line is that you need mom's support now. So please tell her. If it would be easier, ask your sister to be there with you when you do it. You're mom will need time to adjust to the idea that you are pregnant and also time to prepare. So tell her as soon as possible. Good luck to you!
2007-08-12 12:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by snappygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well no matter what your gonna have to tell her and she's gonna be upset. you have to face that you kept something from her , a child , and she IS going to be upset. It's a really hard thing to do. but if you don't feel that you can do it in person maybe try leaving a note at a time when you think is right. of course don't giive it to her on a day when she's had a horrible day at work , has a headache , and got in a fight with your sister. But don't wait till you start showing. That's going to make her feel even more hurt. If your dad doesn't know either you should probably tell him too...or get your mom to do it (but since she's divorced...YOU might HAVE to) If you don't wanna give her a note how about getting ur sis to do it ... she has been helping you all along anyway and make sure to tell her everything is fine and the baby is healthy so she doesn't have to worry.
2007-08-12 12:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are 15 and Pregnant, so your mom IS going to be upset. HOPEFULLY though she will get over it and help you out. Realize before you talk to her that she will be upset - probably more FOR you than AT you. I have a teenage daughter and if she were pregnant I would mostly feel like I didn't do a good enough job parenting so I would be mad at myself more. Also I would be mad that she was in a very difficult situation, and probably a little mad at her for not being more careful. But what's done is done. So sit your mom down and let her know that you have something to tell her that is hard for you. Tell her you would like for her to listen to everything you need to say before she says anything, then LET HER TALK TOO! There will be lots of tears, but it will be okay as long as you give her the time to let it all sink in. I'm sure it took a little bit of time for it to sink in for you too! Also if you have a plan for the baby, like adoption, or keeping it, it would be good to let mom know what you are thinking. Hopefully whatever you decide, you will keep going to school! That is REALLY important to parents.
Good Luck!
2007-08-12 12:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOH, that's a tough one. Um, ok, tell her calmly in a nice way that you guys need to talk. Sit her down and slowly get into the conversation. But, don't tell her that your sister has been taking you, so that she won't be involved in the trouble. After all, she has been nice enough to take you to the appointments. Also, tell your mom you're going to need her support 100% all the way. Now, hopefully you will learn from this mistake. Who knows, maybe this will be a blessing, and your baby might be a cute, little, bundle of joy. Your mom might need this to take her mind off of the divorce. Who knows, this may work out for every one. Stay in school, and good luck.
2007-08-12 12:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iight teen pregnantcy is serius, YOU need to tell your mom now dont wait any longer not to be worrying you or anything but you never know whats going to happen tomorow or the day after that and you dont want that in your consiouse...and you need to take responsibility your a MOM now.. not a teen who can go out and do what ever she wants you have a child inside you breathing and living and need to take care of her/him and think about the future "how are you gong to support the baby???" where am i going to get the money from???...things like this....i say you stand right out of this computer and be strong for you and the baby and tell your mom... iam sure she would want to know news like this she could help you and support you i know its hard but you cant keep things from your mom at this point break it to her nice and slow and she is your mom she deserves to know she is going through some hard times also because of the divource and this is when she needs you the most and you need her if you hide this secret from her she find out another way in future so much harder and heart crushing for both...and her pain will be stronger then shes going through now because shell wonder why you didnt tell her and think you didnt trust her or believed she wouldnt support you ....and for a mom thats the worst feeling in the world so tell her you can bring your sister and tell her .....good luck for you and the baby ...also BE STRONG if your not who will???
2007-08-12 12:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Eka D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister to help you sit down with your mother and tell her.
You better do it soon, you'll be showing soon if you're not already. Hopefully the father of the child is staying in the picture.
He should face your mother with you. Most parents are shocked at first but know that the baby will be their grandchild and they will eventually love the child. Tell your mother you really need her support right now and you know it's difficult for her too due to the divorce. Good luck.
2007-08-12 12:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you think she wont be upset when she finds out you have been keeping this information from her?
You have to tell her as soon as possible as it is not the job of your older sister to look after you. You are still a minor and there are implications with that. You could also be getting your sister into trouble by allowing her to shoulder the burden.
Your mother will find out eventually and believe me the sooner the better.
2007-08-12 12:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i guess just tell her u just found out i think she will be rather upset if u say uv known for so long and didn't tell her best way of telling her is u done pregnancy test about a week ago and u made an appointment with the doctor and u found out u were pregnant etc
but just tell her and let her think it over cause it will be a big shock for her
good luck
2007-08-12 12:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her on a friday, it's been proven that people take things better on Fridays. I would say "Mom, I love you, but I think I might be pregnant." Or you could just wait untill she notices that you have a pumpkin growing out of your stomach. I would go with the first idea.
2007-08-12 12:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by twinkle*toes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is no right or wrong way to tell her. In a case like this, you just have to take a deep breath and blurt it out. I'm sure your mom loves you very much and will do all she can to help. Yes, she will probably worry, but really that's just what mom's do. Best of luck to you. I hope everything turns out OK.
2007-08-12 12:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋