am i over-reacting?Ever since my best friend has been dating her boyfriend(1 yr & a 1/2) our relationship has slowly went downhill,as she spent less and less time with me.I confronted her countless times,at first she cried and fixed things for a few months then went back to her old ways.It's worse now than ever,but after a great day out yesterday i thought things were at least fixed a little.I asked her to stay at mine tonight because we both need to go to a nearby building for interviews,so it was more conveinient for her!She said yes to staying,then changed her mind the next day,and said she would meet me before it instead and we would go together.Then she texts me that she has stayed at her boyfriend's house(!) and where will they both meet me?!Apparently as she had been staying at his all week,it would have been too difficult to take her sleeping over bags to my house(he stays closeby).What is wrong with her!?I cant stand this.
2007-08-12 11:30:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's not like i'm lonely and jealous etc. i've been in love with my boyfriend for over a year,and we spend time together and with other friends,but i just miss her.then she wil go to make plans then ditch me for her boyfriend again.we're back at school soon,where her boyfriend isnt,and she will be with me all the time because he isnt!
2007-08-12 11:56:55 · update #1
You have to accept the fact that things are different now. She has a serious relationship. The boyfriend will come first.
2007-08-12 11:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You act jealous of your friend's relationship with her boyfriend. She is happy with him and seems contented with her relationship with him. She needs space to allow that relationship to grow too and you need to back off and accept that. Believe me, that will make her like and respect you more as a friend if you give her breathing space. Get with her and be happy for her. Stop complaining for the time you do not have with her and start looking forward to the time you can have with her. Be positive and suggest meeting and fellowship times that you can be together in instead of critisizing what she want to do with her own free time. Get yourself a boyfriend and then double date. That way you can be out having fun together. Suggest having an appointment and meet and fellowship for that time and be happy while you are together and contented all the other times.
2007-08-12 18:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is inlove and you should now how that feels, even if you dont you've watch television and see things happen like that. you just feel left out because she has another bestfriend hwose her boyfriend and you kinda feel replace, but thats not true, instead feeling down, go out with them, get to know her boyfriend to see what have her so head over heels for him. and you will see how fun things can be. you can go out with her on some days at the mall or a sleepover. and talk about how happy you are for her. you cant be jealous at this moment of your friends life, i have dealt with the same situations but i would also want her to be happy for me. so just try to be happy for her.
2007-08-12 18:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by beautyprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's common for this.People change.I would'nt pressure her or dioscount anything because she'll always be there.as long as he's good for her I would,nt enterfere with em' be happy 4 her and keep focused on your life and happyness and enjoy avery min that you do share.my best got married and the same thing.We have a blast when we do get together,it's better than complaning about it.just enjoy life its short.
2007-08-12 18:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Indio870 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing is letting go of someone you love. But maybe it's time for you two to go your separate ways. I know it hurts. But her priorties have changed which is normal, your's will too someday. So let her go. True friendship never die, they just get stale sometimes and need refreshing with space. HUGS
2007-08-12 18:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, shes head over heals for this dude, so just dont worry about going to her let her come to you.
2007-08-12 18:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it only natural for some friendships, no matter how close, to split up eventually
2007-08-12 18:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋